Thursday Thoughts...All my X's....

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Thursday Thoughts...All my X's....
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Thu, 09-13-2007 - 7:46am

"...All my exes live in Texas, thats why I hang my hat in Tennessee..."

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Registered: 08-16-2004
Thu, 09-13-2007 - 10:59am
All my X's are men.

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Registered: 11-16-2005
Thu, 09-13-2007 - 11:37am

I've never had experience with this but have seen it happen in a few situations. One couple I know of split a while back and they still vacation together with their new SO's and kids. Several in our group of friends used to be together and now have new partners. They are all very close and maintain regular contact. I've seen some issues with this, but overall I think it's a good thing. It's a good model for children too. On the other hand, I've heard of some horrible break-ups complete with jealousy and total parting of the ways. It's sad, but people are different and how they handle hurdles in life is different.


I wonder if part of the reason why some lesbians maintain bonds of some sort with exes is because of the emotional connection that is hard to break off. Because of our need for other women in our life, be they friends or lovers, I can see how wanting to stay close is important to some. I guess in the balancing act, exes have to make sure that they don't cross the line back into the physical realm if they have new partners.


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Thu, 09-13-2007 - 11:38am

All of my female X's live back east and we've lost touch. The last woman I was dating before I lost my mind and decided to marry a man and I are on ok terms. We don't speak directly to each other........lol. She and my sister are friends so we'll say hi through her. I don't think we harbor any deep resentment towards each other. My first girlfriend and I had such an ugly breakup and then I moved from Maine to Vermont. I've always wished I could apologize and maybe be friends again. I found her sister's email and wrote to her asking her to give R my email and phone number but she never wrote back. I guess she's still upset........but we broke up 10 years ago.
Now, my ex husband is a totally differant story. If we were in the same room together we would probably kill each other. We hate each other with a passion. His picture is posted in the security office of my hospital.......he has a bad habit of showing up when he's upset and raging at me. Or if it's my day off raging at my coworkers. The last time he did it was the day after Xmas last year. We work for the same company, but differant locations. HR stepped in and finally told him if he did it again he would lose his job.

Shannon

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Registered: 03-25-2007
Thu, 09-13-2007 - 3:09pm

I have no clue. I have no X's as I am a babydyke. I know, I know, not in years, just in experience. I hope more people post so that I can learn some stuff.


Hugs


Blue


PS I haven't figured out how to do the sig thing, so it's the same boring, old me.

BLUE DIA
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Thu, 09-13-2007 - 3:39pm

Good thing I'm not the typical man, huh?

 


Hugs,


Sebastian


 


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Registered: 04-23-2006
Thu, 09-13-2007 - 6:41pm

I read this question to her and told her I had nothing to worry about since she has no libido


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Thanks for your input Red. I dont understand though how she could be upset if you find someone else since she is the one choosing to leave. But I do bet money there is a lesbian community 'somewhere' near where you live. We are everywhere you know! lol2.gif image by CalyD44

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Registered: 04-23-2006
Thu, 09-13-2007 - 6:47pm

I agree sweetheart, and I also think its part of the whole; " Our friends are also our potential lovers" senario.

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Registered: 04-23-2006
Thu, 09-13-2007 - 7:27pm
Wow Shannon that is really bad about your XH.

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Registered: 04-23-2006
Thu, 09-13-2007 - 7:32pm

Hey Blue!


A little lesson about your sig.

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Registered: 04-23-2006
Thu, 09-13-2007 - 7:36pm
Hey Seb!

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