Men flirting with you...............
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| Sun, 09-16-2007 - 7:54pm |
One of my favorite coworkers is a male nurse. I call him my don't worry be happy, feng shui, budda nurse. He's great to work with because he's very laid back and easy going. He knows I'm gay, he's always joking we should go out chick watching together. We worked together on Friday and had a really uncomfortable discussion. He was the charge nurse, so I was sitting next to him doing Dr's orders. It was a really hard day. I told him I was going to go home, have a beer and a bubble bath. He told me that he wished he could sit on the floor next to the bathtub reading me poetry and putting bubbles on my breasts. My jaw hit the floor, I was really uncomfortable. I told him neither of our wives would like that. He told me what they didn't know wouldn't hurt us. US? There is no us............at this point I went on my dinner break. Later on I asked him why he was flirting with me. I jokingly asked him if he didn't get the unit's gay list when he started working there. He told me all men like a challenge and getting with a lesbian is the biggest challenge there is.


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Gee, Shannon, this is a tough one. Do you think that he thinks that if you have "one good night" with him, that will change you "back." The way that you first described him was just like a good bud. YOU are not his challenge. Hello! He's married and so are you.
The problem as I see it is that he has changed the nature of your relationship. You went from friendly, harmless(flirting, et.al) buddy, to
I'm glad you agree with me that his comment was over the line. I thought maybe I was over reacting. But, my best friend of 20+ years is a guy.....I'm used to being around guys and not feeling strange. He just gave me that bad feeling in my gut. I don't know what he's thinking. I'm going to walk in tommorow as if nothing happened and hope he does the same. If he brings it up we'll have to have some straight talk and he won't like it one little bit. Sigh..........it sucks because he really is a close bud.
Shannon
I am so sorry you are experiencing this! It makes me wonder what people think? Don't they know that you want to feel safe at the workplace and not have to feel awkward? I just don't get very "familiar" with people who i deal with professionally. I have learned to have clear boundaries. I am sorry that he seems to lack "common sense."
My one best friend is a straight guy too. He and I went through this type of thing. He really wanted to have sex with me.
I told him it was never going to happen anymore than he would have sex with another man. He seems to have dropped it since then.
Hope it stays dropped from now on. Good luck if it does not.
Hugs,
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I wouldn't worry too much about how it will change your friendship. Men are used to getting told no all the time, aren't they?! Just carry on as usual and he probably will too.
That's really too bad that he took what was a really good thing and crossed the line. I'd probably just do as you plan and act like nothing happened. But, if he keeps pressing, you do need to say something. He's very close to overstepping the sexual harassment line.
I hope he can just let it go and move on so you can be good friends again.
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~tries to not overreact~
While I do not, per se, have huge issues with men who flirt with lesbians (as long as they take no for an answer), this man was acting in the capacity of your supervisor.
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I guess I was worrying about nothing, at least for today. Our census is very low today, they just called me off. Woo hoo day off!
Shannon
If I told my wife about this she would seriously kick his a-- even with her jacked up back. She has a jealous streak a mile wide.
Shannon
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