Oh Happy Day!

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Fri, 09-21-2007 - 9:11pm

Last night ds mentioned something about going out for dinner tonight. I called him after work and he was actually fine with it. We went out to Friday's with his gf in tow, whom I like very much. We had pleasant conversation about everything under the sun, besides me being gay. It was wonderful!!!


You know, I was his mom before I came out, and I seem to think it is still the case. We NEVER talked about me being straight when he thought I was, but talked about everything else, just like tonight! I know it's only a small step, guys, but I think it was one giant leap for our relationship. I know he will be pissed again, but still. He wanted help with his college work and his apartment, so it felt nice that he came to me. He even said that we should do this more often. I think he just wants me to pay for a good meal *lol*, but I don't care!!!!!!


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Fri, 09-21-2007 - 9:53pm

Oh Blue, how wonderful!!!

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Sat, 09-22-2007 - 8:43am

Awesome Blue!


The bottom line is you ARE still his mom, gay or straight, and when it comes down to it, he will remember that.

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Sat, 09-22-2007 - 8:55am
Awwwwww ((((( Blue ))))) It was a good step in a positive direction. He is trying.
I am happy to hear this good news!
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Sat, 09-22-2007 - 9:28am

~This is brilliant news, Blue! It might be too much to hope that that was the last of the ranting you'll hear from him on the subject.. but at least the lovely dinner together shows he still loves you for all the regular 'mama' reasons!


*happy hugs* ~ Nony

 

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Sat, 09-22-2007 - 11:45am

Oh Blue! I'm so happy for you! I really hope this is the stepping stone for the 2 of you to spend more time together and for him to work through his emotions.

{{{{{{{{Blue}}}}}}}}}}

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Sun, 09-23-2007 - 8:20pm

These things, while seemingly little steps, seem huge to us, and it can change lots. My youngun came to me for assistance after her mom hit her up for money for her over exuberant gabbooning on her cell phone, leaving her with nothing for school clothes. There was such a level of trust between us before, she counted on me, and then I was gone. Now... she was able to come to me and I was there.


These things matter, Blue... and I'm ecstatic for you!

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Sun, 09-23-2007 - 8:37pm

Thanks Moriah. You know he will get pissy. My family has called him and he vented to a few of them. He called me disgusting, but I think that was before dinner on Friday. My sister came to watch me umpire today and she said that my brother needed to protect his children from me. What the heck is that all about????? My brothers both seemed fine with it. I wanna know what has changed?? Who can answer that question? They just don't get it.


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Blue

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Sun, 09-23-2007 - 8:39pm

I hoping that happens any day now. I get the ebb and flow, but I am tired of all his crap and the dinner was certainly a good thing. I am supposed to food shop for him tomorrow. I wonder if he is just being nice so that I buy him stuff. Nah, who would ever think like that?


How's the house, packing, and other stuff going?


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Blue

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Sun, 09-23-2007 - 8:41pm

Yep, Nony, I think it is too much to hope for. I could never even suggest a support group, 'cause you know how guys can be about that. At least guys in my family. I know that not all guys are like that and I think it would be good for him to know other young men in his situation, but he would never go for it. He is already in counseling, so at least that is a plus.


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Blue

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Sun, 09-23-2007 - 8:45pm

One can only hope, Irish. Who really knows what goes through the minds of straight young men? lol

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