Loose Ends

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Loose Ends
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Wed, 09-26-2007 - 6:45pm

In less than an hour I am going to "Ladies Night." This is a group of women that I have known since my dd was 5. We have raised our children together through thick and thin. We have had deaths of dh's, births from unmarried children, celebrated weddings, and other things that suburban married women go through. This is my last "loose end" to tie up and I have to admit that it is making me quite nervous. One of my best friends, S, who I have already come out to, does not really want me to come out in this forum. She thinks that I should see them in small groups or one on one. I don't see them anywhere else, except once a month at LN and once a year at the shore for an awesome weekend.


I think I want to do this tonight, but I am hesitating because of S. I guess I will just play it by ear and see what comes of it. Any quick suggestions from anybody online right now?


Hugs


Sue




Edited 9/26/2007 6:53 pm ET by bluediamondldy
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In reply to: bluediamondldy
Wed, 09-26-2007 - 7:09pm
I suggest you go with the moment and do it when you feel is right for you! I think if you guys (er..gals...) have been though all this together so far, then the coming out of a colleague is just one more item added to the list eh? I'm thinking of ya!

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In reply to: bluediamondldy
Wed, 09-26-2007 - 7:17pm
I agree with Ven.

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In reply to: bluediamondldy
Thu, 09-27-2007 - 1:26pm
What did you end up deciding? :-)
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In reply to: bluediamondldy
Thu, 09-27-2007 - 4:39pm

Rogue


We all went around the table updating on our families. I was third. I talked about my kids, the summer and my stbxh. Then everybody else finished. There was a lull in the conversation and I said, "You know, we have been together for a long time and gone through a lot together. I want you all to know that T and I are splitting." They gave me the "Ohhhhhh." So I said, "Wait, there's more. I want you to know that I am in the process of coming out, and well, the process ends here. I am now out to everybody." At that moment they were all fine. A couple of them gave me the high five. They commiserated about how hard it must have been all these years. I told them while I found them attractive, I was not interested in

BLUE DIA
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In reply to: bluediamondldy
Thu, 09-27-2007 - 6:31pm

Sounds like it went well Blue,

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In reply to: bluediamondldy
Thu, 09-27-2007 - 7:09pm

Thanks, sister. After I come out to somebody, I've been saying, "I'm of Polish extraction and I bet you didn't know that about me, too!" Truly, all of the loose ends are tied together. I'm free and I came out of it fairly intact. I know the road won't always be level and clear in the future, but I know that when I came to the final fork in the road, "I, I took the one less traveled, and it will(sic) make all the difference."


Hugs to All My Sisters(and Seb)

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In reply to: bluediamondldy
Thu, 09-27-2007 - 7:42pm

"...Don't know what's comin' tomorrow...
maybe it's trouble and sorrow...
but we'll travel the road...
sharin' our load...
side by side...."


Always be there for you friend! Not just for this part of your journey but for whatever lies ahead.

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In reply to: bluediamondldy
Thu, 09-27-2007 - 7:50pm
Good for you Blue and congratulations! I will be sending your brand new free power tool as soon as you tell me what kind you would like. Vibrators do not count!
Hugs,
Laurie

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In reply to: bluediamondldy
Thu, 09-27-2007 - 8:16pm

I know I must be tired because I read your post and thought " she's sending Sue a vibrator? I know we're all a bunch of dykes here, but that's a seriously personal gift!"

I had to reread your post 3 times before I got it! LOL

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In reply to: bluediamondldy
Thu, 09-27-2007 - 8:17pm

I'm so glad it went well! I'm proud of you for completing the circle..........

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