It's hard not to feel guilt
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It's hard not to feel guilt
| Thu, 09-27-2007 - 2:59pm |
So you all I know I came out to my mom this week.
| Thu, 09-27-2007 - 2:59pm |
So you all I know I came out to my mom this week.
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Hugs,
Sebastian
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(((((((Amy)))))))))
It will take some time, but it sounds like your parents love you unconditionally and because of that they will come around. They WILL see how happy you are and realize the effect that has on the kids. Give them some time and space. I know it hurts, but I truly believe it will all be ok.
Big hugs to you
((Amy Louise))
Yep, you are right. They need time to process. You are now an official FGP and they need to come to terms. It's not really about them, this is all about you. I know that they need to make themselves "right" with it and they will. They should grieve about the end of your marriage. If you put anything into it at all, it is like a death. Hell, I'm grieving about mine. Then they will grieve for the "old" you until they come fully to know the new you.
Don't feel guilty, however. Sometimes I feel more guilty about the life I led in the closet, than in the life out. I consciously fooled a lot of people along the way. I felt that I did it for my own protection, because of the time, place, and situation I was living in, but I still sometimes feel the guilt about that. I wish, in this case, that I had been born about 10 years later than I was. It might have been easier, but maybe not. Who will ever know.
Major hugs holding you close
Thelma Sue
You can not feel guilty for who you are, just for things you have done...coming out is nothing to feel guilty about. Being who you are is nothing to be sorry for and allowing your children to know who thier mother is, is not bad.
It sounds as though your parents love you and they will realize that no matter what, you are the daughter they love.
I came out later in life and my sexuality is never the subject of conversation with my parents...not because they have a problem with it...just because it isn't on the forefront of any of our minds. They love me, I love them and thats all there is to it.
I wish you luck and hope that you learn to lose the guilt for being who you are.
Nora
And now you are not living a lie to those you love and know and now they know the real you through and through.
No more secrets or lies. That should take some of the guilt away.
Just give them time to process.
Hugs,
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Thanks so much Sebastian.
Hi TiNG.
Thelma Sue-you are such a sweetheart.
Hi Noralouise.
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