Thanks all

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Registered: 12-12-2006
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Mon, 10-15-2007 - 10:18pm

For just listening to me rant or just Pop in or any other of my moods and this change in my relationship. Gee, it's still "there", ya know ? we had lunch and practiced sign today and fussed and cried and kissed and made up(not back 'together-together')...but as in Acceptance of what we are Now and trying to deal with it, both of us.


She still loves me. But I am still getting busy.......and filling up my days with good things !


"Thoughts are things! Think Good ones!"

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Registered: 11-16-2005
In reply to: designergrl47
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 12:22pm

We're so glad you're here, Brandy, and have been participating so much lately! It's good to have you back. I understand the mood swings and hard times. Sounds like you are doing your best to stay on top of things and not fall prey to bad habits.


Thanks for the good wishes on the house. We are giddy with excitement, although overwhelmed with all the work we have ahead of us.


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Registered: 03-25-2007
In reply to: designergrl47
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 5:26pm

Brandy


Relationships can be so hard, especially if you have worked on them or are currently working on them. The stress levels go up and down. I am glad you seem to be kind of sorting things out. I wish for you that it had worked out the way you wanted it to, but I can see you are a realist when it comes to this stuff. Who really knows what is in the future, anyhow?


I got my index finger, little finger, and thumb up in the universal sign "I love you." Can you see it?


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BLUE DIA
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Registered: 03-25-2007
In reply to: designergrl47
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 9:00pm

Wow, sounds impressive. Now, exactly where do you live?

BLUE DIA
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Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: designergrl47
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 9:33pm

Seattle, Washington.

"Thoughts are things! Think Good ones!"

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Registered: 04-25-2003
In reply to: designergrl47
Wed, 10-17-2007 - 8:38pm
You know, I think the fact that you are still seeing her has got to make this harder on you. How are you going to feel when she starts telling you stories about any new woman in her life and such? Just my thoughts on it, but I found I couldn't manage a friendship with my ex until after we had put some distance- and months- between us. I wanted to stay in touch with the kids -which I couldn't do except through her.

hope it all works out for ya. take care of yourself.

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Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: designergrl47
Wed, 10-17-2007 - 10:45pm

I know that you are right. It won't feel good at all. That is why I am trying to get busy in my own life.I tried calling a friend when

"Thoughts are things! Think Good ones!"

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Registered: 09-12-2007
In reply to: designergrl47
Thu, 10-18-2007 - 7:09am

I think your post here is just fine, you should not shut yourself up!

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Registered: 04-25-2003
In reply to: designergrl47
Thu, 10-18-2007 - 5:26pm
whoa Brandy! Slow down a bit girl... deep breathing...

Of course you are loveable! And at the moment you are also hurting. I just read someone's post this morning that said "she can't be happy in a relationship until she is happy with herself" (or words to that effect). You don't NEED to be in a relationship to be ok. You don't NEED to be having sex to be ok. There is this wonderful person out there wh is feeling a but hurt right now and could do with some special attention. I think you should spend some time with her. Her name is BRANDY!!!

Let your friends be just friends. Live your life one day at a time, live your life for YOU - I don't believe we ever find the right person when we are hunting her down!! I wonder how many of our boardies found love while out looking? And how many just happened upon it?

I think the worst thing you can do is give up on yourself right now. Keep an open mind, keep telling yourself you are loveable and wanted- but keep in mind most women don't want to get involved with someone still dealing with a break up. Slow down a bit mate, take some time to heal. Join other online communities, get to know other people for themselves rather than potential dates!

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Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: designergrl47
Fri, 10-19-2007 - 12:12pm

You are right , mschiffven, on all accounts. I have been acting out in unhealthy ways.And I am still Very Confused! I have a lot of really bad nights or extreeme moments when it doesn't feel like the pain will ever go away...then it does. Last night I hit my knees in prayer for the first time in years...when what I usually just say is Thank you God for keeping me sober...(I actually heard them crack..smile). As a person in recovery who is always having to examine her motives,

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Registered: 03-25-2007
In reply to: designergrl47
Sun, 10-21-2007 - 9:38am

Brandy,


I have been following this thread with great interest and pain for you. I am glad that you have this forum to vent in. I think it is a very theraputic place for you.

BLUE DIA

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