it's so Hard to be good

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Registered: 12-12-2006
it's so Hard to be good
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Tue, 11-06-2007 - 3:37pm
Keeping My side of the street clean

"Thoughts are things! Think Good ones!"

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Registered: 06-05-2007
Tue, 11-06-2007 - 4:14pm

Wooohooo so proud PROUD of you for walking away...one day at a time. Yes this stuff is HARD. Been there, done that...learning too. I use all kinds of little slogans myself.


Keep venting here or just post on whatever topic you want when you feel like engaging more with your X or her family. The more time you spend away from the crazymaking people, the better you will feel....which is why i decided to stay away from that other "support" site..which caused lots of crazymaking.


I have heard this before that helps me..."Don't fight with pigs, you will get dirty and tired and only the pig has fun!"


The only thing I don't like about that quote is that it judges the "pig"...but it jars me into remembering that engaging in negative is NOT FUN to me...and robs me of my serenity. If it fun to the other person (based on their need to go on

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Tue, 11-06-2007 - 4:22pm

I'm proud of you for walking away! I can't believe some of the drama that goes on in lesbian circles. Blows me away! Sometimes it is therapeutic to write out what you're feeling and then delete it. I do that occasionally, and it really does work.


Keep on keepin' on. We're here for you.


Big hugs


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Tue, 11-06-2007 - 5:14pm

LMAO at the Pig quote Roxy!!!! And thank you...God I Had to vent! And Ting, thank you too sugar. I at first thought I might get my post moved back to 12 step recovery, but you guys are my crew, too.


"Thoughts are things! Think Good ones!"

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Registered: 06-05-2007
Tue, 11-06-2007 - 5:23pm

I am glad you posted Brandy!!! It helps me too!!!


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Roxy

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Registered: 03-25-2007
Tue, 11-06-2007 - 6:51pm

Brandy, good job walking away.


Are you already thinking about next Monday, though? I wouldn't call then, either. Let this one go.


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Blue

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Tue, 11-06-2007 - 6:58pm

I already "slipped". :((((( I text messaged her...not saying mean things, just asking her Why she is doing this ? etc...


I'll go to a f2f meeting tonight.


"Thoughts are things! Think Good ones!"

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Registered: 06-05-2007
Tue, 11-06-2007 - 7:03pm

(((BRANDY)))...just thought you'd need a hug. Umm what is an f2f meeting?


Can you take her off you cell so you dont get tempted...i think blue gave great advice..though i understand great advice is hard to follow...until you are ready.


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Roxy

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Registered: 04-08-2007
Tue, 11-06-2007 - 9:42pm

Brandy,

I would just give her space and if she wants contact she can come to you. Sometimes the more you chase something the faster it runs, you know? Take care of YOU!

Shannon

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Tue, 11-06-2007 - 10:19pm

I have not been so intrenched in dyke drama since I was drinking.It hurts so much. She finally called me back

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Wed, 11-07-2007 - 9:18am

((((Brandy))))

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