Lesbian?

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Registered: 11-08-2007
Lesbian?
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Thu, 11-08-2007 - 3:15pm
Im currently 18 years old, and very curious as if i could possibly be lesbian?

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Registered: 11-16-2005
In reply to: confused8998
Thu, 11-08-2007 - 3:50pm

Welcome!! Great to have you here!


Only you can decide whether or not you are a lesbian, but if you are having thoughts of being with a woman romantically and sexually, I'd say there's a very strong possibility that you are.


My advice is always to follow your heart. We face tough issues, but what matters in the end is that by being true to ourselves, we are happy. You can be a Christian and be a lesbian. Many of us are. If your particular religion condemns homosexuals, then that's something you will have to reconcile. But, I would say this to you...how can something that feels so right be wrong?


Continue to dig deep in your soul and reflect on your true identity. You will find the answers you're looking for.


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Registered: 06-05-2007
In reply to: confused8998
Thu, 11-08-2007 - 4:59pm

Hey there! Ting gave you a great responce...I just wanted to add a big "Welcome!"

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Registered: 03-25-2007
In reply to: confused8998
Thu, 11-08-2007 - 5:47pm

Hey Confused, welcome to the board. Lots of confused people all over the place. I am in agreement with Ting about your feelings. I think if you are thinking that you might be, you probably are, but only you can ultimately decide.


I don't think that "loving God" and having "feelings for women that are not platonic" are mutually exclusive. There are plenty of Christian religions and even churches within religions that are Welcoming and Affirming. The question that you will have to answer is whether or not you are willing to give up your version of Christianity if your religion frowns on homosexuality.


I wish you all the best as you travel down your road. Please feel free to post here. This is a wonderful place. Lots of advice will be given, some that you will heed and others that you will hear and discard. Choose what you want, go slowly, and all will be placed on the path ahead of you.


Hugs


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BLUE DIA
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Registered: 10-14-2005
In reply to: confused8998
Thu, 11-08-2007 - 8:59pm

Hello and welcome. It wasn't all that long ago that I was right where you are now. I was raised in a very strict Christian home, and my Christianity was one of my defining characteristics. I was very devoted to both God an church, and had been raised to believe that being gay was a horrible sin. It took me many years of denial and desperately trying to change my feelings before I finally gave in, and now I'm so much happier and comfortable with my life. You definitely are not alone. I think it's great that you are reaching out in a forum like this, where you can remain anonymous while you examine your own feelings. I wish I had done that.

Like others have said, being a Christian and being gay are not mutually exclusive. I no longer consider myself a Christian, but that has nothing to do with my sexuality and everything to do with a period of questioning my beliefs that I went through before I even came out. But I have lots of gay friends who are Christians, and I know many, many Christian churches that are open and welcoming to gay members. You might want to check out an affirming church in your area and possibly talk to the pastor or a leader there. Also, check out the book, What the Bible Really Says About Homosexuality by Daniel A. Helminiak. It's a quick, easy read and it will clear up a lot of confusion you might have. It helped me a lot.



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Registered: 09-12-2007
In reply to: confused8998
Fri, 11-09-2007 - 3:02pm

I started wondering if I might be a lesbian over a year ago, now pretty sure that I am.

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Registered: 10-13-2010
In reply to: confused8998
Wed, 10-13-2010 - 9:14pm

Ok, Lets just set the Christian part aside a moment and look at the reality of this. You're 18 and " Never kissed a girl" It's natural for women to fantasize about other women, and even be attracted to the idea that unlike men they'll be more feminine and ( Sorry guys!) Less like pigs in certain areas. But in all honesty.. Worry AFTER you've gotten that first kiss, or that touch. You're going to find out in a hurry whether or not it's for you. I think at this point it's curiosity, and even god will forgive if you sate said curiosity. I'm Christian, I'm a woman. I got my kiss, and I wanted more.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
In reply to: confused8998
Wed, 10-13-2010 - 9:45pm

Hi and Welcome.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
In reply to: confused8998
Wed, 10-13-2010 - 9:50pm
Hmm???The link isn't working. Let's try it again.

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Registered: 10-13-2010
In reply to: confused8998
Wed, 10-13-2010 - 11:07pm
I agree completely with Deb. Hence my saying to put it aside for a moment and explore the actual potential or disadvantages of having a female partner. They say " God our father, an unconditional love." Have faith that your faith will see you in the right direction and make you happy in life. Though I didn't even know about the Metro Comm Church. I just go to church and take up my feelings with the lord. Good luck hunny. You're going to find something that makes you happy... Male or female.. Love is love no matter where it comes from.
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In reply to: confused8998
Mon, 12-06-2010 - 4:33pm
  • :smileytongue: Hello how you doing? My name is Aiyhania and I am a bi-curious female. I was reading what you had posted and I am interested in talking with you. If you like we can become internet buddies. If you like you can send me a message MzWaterFallCum@yahoo.com
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