Do you explain to people why....

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Do you explain to people why....
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Tue, 03-22-2005 - 5:55pm
you don't do things other people do? There are many things I avoid doing, especially with my kids and I feel like I have to tell people why I don't do those things. Sometimes I do tell people that I feel comfortbale with, sometimes I don't. I avoid doing alot of things because I start the "what if's" or I just don't feel like I can handle doing them. If I'm by myself I can usually talk myself down, most of the time. But if I'm with my kids, I often lose it all together. And since I have been having chest pains due to the anxiety, I am really avoiding doing anything I don't HAVE to do. But how do you explain to people that you don't participate or your kids don't, because I can't handle normal everyday things?
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Registered: 04-25-2003
Tue, 03-22-2005 - 6:43pm

Could you be more specific?
I may be able to relate, but I need more info.

Laura

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Tue, 03-22-2005 - 10:08pm
Nice to see you posting again. Sorry to hear that things are still pretty rough. I was so tired of disappointing my kids by not driving, that I used my frustration to push myself back into normal driving situations. There is a time, when we reach a point where we are content to live limited lives or move forward towards reclaiming the activities that we have come to avoid. Either way, it will be your decision what to tell & whom to tell it, too. Are you embarrassed
 

 


 



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Registered: 06-17-2004
Sun, 03-27-2005 - 7:13pm
Tell them the truth! I have had such tremendous success being honest. I have Panic Disorder and I might need your help when we are out with the kids. Just giving yourself permission to have an attack because you know you have a "back-up" is often enough to keep the anxiety from escalating. Don't sell those around you short either, you'd be surprised the tremendous number of compassionate souls that will support you... and that too will help you meet one victory at a time! Good luck!
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Registered: 04-07-2003
Sun, 03-27-2005 - 8:11pm
Tinkerbell.
I raised my children before panic disorder was recognized.
I did not have the chance to try meds or therapy.
There are many things I could not do with my kids that I so regretted!
If you have the chance to see a therapist or try meds do yourself and
your kids a favor and try it!!
I started therapy and medication when I was in my mid 40's and had great success.
None of my friends knew what I was talking about when I described a panic attack!
They just said how awful! I felt so alone and different and ashamed!!
Please seek help for yourself---- you will be amazed!
What do you have to lose? Judy
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Registered: 03-27-2005
Sun, 03-27-2005 - 8:48pm
I think the important thing is for you to help yourself. You realize you cannot continue with that mindset. There are solutions out there for you. My suggestion is to visit http://stress-relief-guide.cjb.net