I Never Thought of This!

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Registered: 04-07-2003
I Never Thought of This!
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Mon, 04-04-2005 - 9:23pm
Hi all! I went to therapy today and was talking about how my husband keeps bringing up negative things to me- he recites things he has read in the newspaper which I do not read since I don't want to hear the bad stuff!! and HE KNOWS THIS!!
He will say things he knows annoys me etc etc
My therapist said
#1 He is threatened by your getting well
#2 He brings you down to bring himself up
#3 JUST WALK AWAY!!!
I never thought to tell him I am not listening or just walk away!
I felt as a wife it was my duty to listen to this BS
I sure feel dumb
I am always trying to please and would therefore never think to ignore him!!!
Well I am on IGNORE!!!
Hope this helps someone else!!
Take care, Judy
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Registered: 03-11-2004
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 7:00am

That was a good one, Judy. Thanks for sharing. You are NOT dumb, BTW. I am so glad that your therapist points things out to you.

 

 


 



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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 04-07-2005 - 12:27am
Forgive yourself Judy!!

Blessings, Suz   Posts in this Community