can anyone please offer any advice?
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can anyone please offer any advice?
| Tue, 04-05-2005 - 4:13am |
I really need some advice. Some of you will see ive posted here before many times about problems with my housemate over the last few months. Well the last couple of months have been relatively problem-free, but because I had it in my head I would move, I have now taken steps after much agonising, and handed in my notice and found another girl to move in with. She seems like a nice girl, but I’ve only met her twice, but now I’m starting to panic. At the moment I constantly feel like I’m on the verge of having a total breakdown. I came of Antidepressants 2 months ago and don ‘t know if I’m so good without them, although I want to learn to deal with my issues myself (namely I had a difficult upbringing, not close to my family, I have low self esteem etc) I’m trying desperately to exercise and eat well to look after myself, but in the stress of house issues it’s hard. I also started a new job recently and am finding it hard to motivate myself. I’m alone in my office all day long and seem to get hardly anything done. Part of me feels I should be focusing on these things and then moving out. It’s not unbearable at all where I live now. The one housemate I had problems with (arguing, her friends bringing back random men) have now subsided as we don’t work together anymore, but she is still funny about some things eg when I talk in my room on the phone after 10.15pm and says if I had a guy back I should whisper. This makes me feel like I’m walking on eggshells. It’s unlikely I will have a man back in the next couple of months anyway but I wonder if it’s worth putting up with her demands for a couple of months and staying put in my house for more thinking space and to focus on making myself feel better. Oh my housemate also unknowingly makes me feel quite low sometimes by making comments aobut how clsoe she is to her mum etc when I tell her my mum hans't called me for ages. She's a bit isnensitive wihtout relaising it and very insecure also which is why I tohught it would be good to have a clean break. I wonder if me tihnking of staying is me just putting off change as I’m scared and wonder if I should take the plunge I would certainly disappoint the girl I’ve met if I didn’t move with her now and maybe if I move other things will fall into place as I won’t be having to make a decision anymore. They could also get worse as I could have new issues with this girl, arg Thing is I have to make a decision pretty quick before my housemates find someone new or the other girl finds a house for us. I am at work feeling like I’d rather be in bed hiding form the world. I constantly feel like crying at the moment and feel so panicky and fragile. Can anyone advice me on where I should go from here? I’m so torn and I hate it….. x

Blessings, Suz
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