Anyone else see something wrong?
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Anyone else see something wrong?
| Sun, 04-10-2005 - 6:43pm |
i guess this may be a bit off topic, but i have to get this off my chest and you ladies listen well!
it's my neighbor, you see. she has a son one week younger than my own, so they like to play together. she has a daughter who turned 12 yesterday, i helped out by giving mom a ride to go shopping all day wednesday (she has no license), we loaned her money till her check comes in ($100), and i also took her daughter shopping yesterday (and gave her money on top of her gifts from me). .
i mean, we are sorta friends but not really close or talk all the time, whatever. i like her kids and feel sorry for them that their parents are the way they are. she also has a son who is a year older than the girl, but he's really badly behaved and never around. she has an excuse for EVERYTHING that anyone does - *it's the devil's on his shoulders* she'll say. the WHAT? i mean i'm about to give her my psychiatrists name. she also has ADD badly.
well, a few times this week she has told me i'm *uptight* and need to relax. i get offended by this. i am generally an easy-going person, except for my anxiety issues which i am working on. we just switched to xanax from klonipin so that's already helping too. wouldn't it bother you if someone else's 2 yr old was allowed to run around without pants or diaper, just tshirt, in the very cool night air, and sit and play on YOUR CHILD's toys? it bothered me and i told her so. she said *OMG you are so uptight, need a massage?* i said no, but those are my son's toys and i do have a problem with germs, not to mention it's a tad cold to let your child run around like that, don't ya think? i realize i only have 1 child, and it is a blessing because i will never have another, and i do let him do more than most severe hemophiliac mom's would (his blood does NOT clot at all). nonetheless, i have sense enough not to let him go nearly naked on a cold evening and play on somebody else's toys, and THEN critize the woman who made the bday party possible in the FIRST PLACE!
ARGHHHHHHH!
am i wrong? or is it my anxiety making me this angry?
thanks for listening. this was not the first time. she also said that about me watching my son so close on the trampoline and telling him to stay away from the edges. if he falls off, we go to the ER. if her kid falls off, he gets up and plays. see the difference?
~leslie
it's my neighbor, you see. she has a son one week younger than my own, so they like to play together. she has a daughter who turned 12 yesterday, i helped out by giving mom a ride to go shopping all day wednesday (she has no license), we loaned her money till her check comes in ($100), and i also took her daughter shopping yesterday (and gave her money on top of her gifts from me). .
i mean, we are sorta friends but not really close or talk all the time, whatever. i like her kids and feel sorry for them that their parents are the way they are. she also has a son who is a year older than the girl, but he's really badly behaved and never around. she has an excuse for EVERYTHING that anyone does - *it's the devil's on his shoulders* she'll say. the WHAT? i mean i'm about to give her my psychiatrists name. she also has ADD badly.
well, a few times this week she has told me i'm *uptight* and need to relax. i get offended by this. i am generally an easy-going person, except for my anxiety issues which i am working on. we just switched to xanax from klonipin so that's already helping too. wouldn't it bother you if someone else's 2 yr old was allowed to run around without pants or diaper, just tshirt, in the very cool night air, and sit and play on YOUR CHILD's toys? it bothered me and i told her so. she said *OMG you are so uptight, need a massage?* i said no, but those are my son's toys and i do have a problem with germs, not to mention it's a tad cold to let your child run around like that, don't ya think? i realize i only have 1 child, and it is a blessing because i will never have another, and i do let him do more than most severe hemophiliac mom's would (his blood does NOT clot at all). nonetheless, i have sense enough not to let him go nearly naked on a cold evening and play on somebody else's toys, and THEN critize the woman who made the bday party possible in the FIRST PLACE!
ARGHHHHHHH!
am i wrong? or is it my anxiety making me this angry?
thanks for listening. this was not the first time. she also said that about me watching my son so close on the trampoline and telling him to stay away from the edges. if he falls off, we go to the ER. if her kid falls off, he gets up and plays. see the difference?
~leslie

something about being around her makes me feel totally drained. partly because of trying to keep up with her mind wanderings, her ADD is not treated and quite obvious. but also because my patience does have limits and once in a while i just have to walk away to avoid losing it. i don't want to put a huge rift there because i enjoy her DD and my DS loves her. plus DS loves to play with her son. being literally next door, when DS sees them out playing he wants to go and if there is a huge problem between us then he can't. so i'm trying to walk this fine line between what i should say and what i shouldn't say. perhaps i will buy a can of lysol spray and take it with me each time. ROFL. that'd get the hint across, even to her! she does bathe him everyday, but after his bath he's back out playing in the dirt and half the time getting naked. she wondered one day why he is a *streaker* and likes to take off down the sidewalk without his pants. i said that's pretty obvious, since you LET HIM half the time and then don't know why he thinks it's ok the other half???
we didn't see them yesterday. it was a rainy day and i kept DS inside with me all day. we played with his toys and didn't *visit* his friends. luckily, they didn't try to visit us either. i thought he needed a day to himself with me, just to catch up before starting his week at daycare.
thanks for listening to me rant!
~leslie
I don't think your feelings are unreasonable at all. Sounds like she is not really in tune to whats going on around her. It makes no sense why a mother would send her 2 year old out on a cold night with nothing but a t-shirt on. I too would be disgusted if the child was playing all over my kids toys with his naked bottom. She should be much more senstive to your situation. Her knowing your son is a hemophiliac she should be considerate of the fact you don't want him to fall off a trampoline. Sounds like this lady is not really understanding the severity of your situation.
Candie
i told her DH that she really annoyed me that night, saying the things she did. he said yea, that's just her though. i said yes, but i don't appreciate being treated like that and that was why i stayed away a few days. he said he understands, it's why he works so much too. LOL. he doesn't like it that she lets the 2 yr old go without pants or diaper so often, but then he's not around 24/7 to stop her. when he is, he does something about it.
anyhow...i've beaten this subject to death. i can't change her, but i can let her know that certain things are not cool with me and she can take me or leave me accordingly.
~Leslie