is this the right decision?
Find a Conversation
| Mon, 04-18-2005 - 8:07am |
hey
i have posted before about problems witha housemat eof mine. Basically in january i had decided to mvoe out becasue I was working with my housemate and we were arguing because we spent so muhc time together. Her friend was causing problems when she stayed over the night, by bringing back random men, but this has now stopped. And since i got a new job, we do not argue. Sure we annoy each ohter sometimes and she is very intolerant of nay noise. This is not too much of a problem as i don't have a boyfriend at the moment but if I got one, we wouldn't be able to speak in my room, we'd have to whisper as she hears everything and gets annoyed by it. I am not inconsiderate and don't want to disturb her but when i have used my phone at 10.30pm and she tells me to be quiet and i am practically whsipering i do get annoyed. I was going to move out soon and gave my notice, started looking but then felt myself getting really ill and stressed (I only came off antidepressants a couple of months ago) and i have this new job and want to lose a bit of weight, so i thought to myself maybe i should stay where i know i am safe and there is only occasional annoyance. Part of me thinks i should run away from the house tohugh and the memory of this girl and mine's arugments. We used to be so close but got to know eahc other very quickly and have only been friends a year, and now we get on well but are not as close and I don't like to spend time with her as much. She asks to get a dvd and stuff and i just want to do my own thing instead sometimes. She irritates me without realising, and i think it may be because im feeling down so im really easily irritated at the moment. thing is I jsut don't fele up to moving, not with all this change, and i have thought about it for so long and been so indecisive so i guess part of me thinks ive wimped out by staying put. Then agian i did decide to leave in january and tihngs are better now than they were. It is definaltely bearable and enjoyable sometimes, but i just think we are not ever going to be best friends again as she mildly irritates me a lot of the time. Sohuld i just forget this now, stick to my decision to stay and concentrate on making ymself better, or is it silly to stay in a house where there is bad histroy. Part of me tihnks overcoming our problems and still being able to live together might be a good learning experience. Like i say the worst thing is her intolerance of noise and the possibility of her firned causing trouble which she has promised won't happen. It's a lovely house and cheap - I just don't want to be silly about it.
Any advcie would be greatly appreciated
thanks
x

Blessings, Suz
Posts in this Community ![]()
maybe try talking things out-
if you are depressed you are more easily annoyed!
try and set some things straight as far as house rules
and maybe you 2 can be friends again?
Good luck and take care, Judy
hi both thanks for your adivce, it is nice to hear and i am thnakful for you taking the time to write to me.
One thing though, Suz, what made you say i was not the perfect roommate? Have i given that impression...i tihnk i have missed something. I'm sure im not perfect, but i wonder if i have given a specific impression of something i do....
x
Blessings, Suz
Posts in this Community ![]()
thanks you both for your posts. Unfortunately orchid i cannot afford to live by myself, so it's the choice between strangers who could be worse, or my current situation. Plus even tho i wonder if staying for the menaitme while i sort other things out, was the right idea, I have asked my housmeates call the people who wanted ot take my room to say no, so if i changed my mind immediately againit would not be fair... I worry as well that new people may bring new annoyances, at least presently i know what im dealing with. does this info change your opinion? xxx