fear of spiders/bees KILLING ME!

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Registered: 02-12-2005
fear of spiders/bees KILLING ME!
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Wed, 04-20-2005 - 11:37am

HELP!!!!!

~~~I am DEATH afraid of spiders/bees. and I am moving into a new home officially this friday. I have had problems in the past at an aprtment building, we were next to the bridge (water) and the cement/bridge spiders were bigger than quarters nd when the wind blew their eggs and themselves would hit our building and they would come inside and come out through the ceilings, I have always hated bugs , who doesnt, but this is what started my overwhelming FEAR!!! I would kill 12-20 a NIGHT!!! I couldnt, eat or sleep and when we lost electric for 3 days i stayed with a friends because if there were no lights i couldnt see the spiders!!! the most horrific thing was when my husband went out and sprayed all the spiders on the porch and in about 5 minutes they all started falling down all over the place TONS of them, and just that sight made me fear them more!!
it was horrible and we saved money for a couple months and moved out of there and moved into another bvuilding that was farther from the water but they were still around!!! they couldnt get in unless you left a door or window open at night though, so that wasnt as bad. then I moved into a trailer and had little black purple/yellow spiders but they stayed outside so my fear calmed down alot!

but, now we ar emoving to a country type home near the woods and all the walls are wood. with little crakcs in them. I am DEAHTLY afraid that I am going to have spiders GALORE but my husband re assured me that behind the wood is a regular wall and that n o spiders will come in. I hate that this fear consumes me i almost didnt take the house because of this fear it is getting out of hand ! I love to grden, bike and be outside but now bees are ruining my LIFE! twice (the door was open) we found BLACK BIG wasps in the house trying to get out the window (screened in so he couldnt) and now my paranopia is back!

this is taking over my life and I hate it the house is PERFECT for us and our furbabies but i hate that all I can think of is the spiders/bees :(

anyone have any tips or go through the same thing ??? I may consider hypnosis. not sure.

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Registered: 04-05-2005
Wed, 04-20-2005 - 4:45pm
Wow, I am really sorry to hear about your fear of spiders and bees. I think many people (including me) have some degree of dislike for these creatures, but it sounds like the huge quantity of spiders that you have had to deal with has affected you a lot. I certainly don't blame you for fearing these things. I hope your hubby is right about the spiders not being able to get in. Maybe if you see that they can't get in it will set you at ease. About the wasps, I hate them too. Maybe you could ask hubby to check for the nests and spray. Hopefully, that will do it. If not, hypnosis might be a good idea. I used it to quit smoking. It worked. Good luck and keep us posted. M
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Registered: 03-11-2004
Wed, 04-20-2005 - 6:07pm

Hi! Nice to see you. I am sorry to hear that you have such a severe phobia. Hypnosis has been discussed on the board, as well as a desensitization therapy for treatment. Maybe someone out there reading this can give you some pointers. In the meantime, relax & join us by reading the posts & all the info presented in the other folders. You are not alone.


For what it's worth, I have seen those electrical devices sold in catalogs that emit a high pitched frequency that cannot be heard