Bad experience need reassurance.

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Bad experience need reassurance.
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Thu, 04-21-2005 - 12:05pm

I had a bad visit with my pdoc yesterday. First of I thought my appt was at 3:30 but it was actually at 3:00 and he was pissed at me for that. I only sat with him for like 15 minutes. He seemed unhappy that I am starting work again. He said that he thinks I need to see him every week and now I am not going to be able to do that with work. I explained that I probably could work something out with my boss, but every week would probably not work, he was not pleased. I was feeling really good when I went to see him. I had been driving all day, which is a big deal for me. I was feeling excited and happy about my progress, but after visiting with him I feel torn down and now I am doubting weither I made the right decision to go back to work. It's funny that I would let one person bring me so down but I am really feeling bad now. I had a panic attack last night for the first time in a week. My husband thinks he is just mad because I have been a steady income for him (going every week) and now I am going to have to go less. I need reassurance. I am feeling really sad right now.

Candie

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Registered: 04-05-2005
Thu, 04-21-2005 - 2:22pm
Candie, I am sorry you had a bad visit with your pdoc. I thought they were supposed to make you feel better, not worse! I think the goal of therapy should be to help you lead a productive life. Obviously work is part of that. The fact that you have gone back to work I think is a huge deal, something you should be proud of. Why can't you see if your therapist could see you once a week before or after your job or on Sat? My therapist has evening hours. I think your pdoc should work around your schedule, not vice versa. Personally, I feel better about my anxiety the busier I am. I think you should feel good about the job and driving. Don't let a bad session take away from that. M
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Registered: 03-11-2004
Thu, 04-21-2005 - 2:39pm

Oh, Candie. I feel so bad for you. You are doing all the right things. Returning to work & driving IS a big deal & something you ought to be rewarded for. ITA with all that M said. What has happened is just a blip on the big steady stream of life. Don't allow it to take away from your progress. Doctors, no matter what field, have a tendency to be over protective of their patients. He might be a little annoyed that you made major decisions without consulting him. That happens during a therapeutic relationship. Your dh has a good idea, but IMHO once the doctor pays his office rent, his utilities, his personnel, what is left for him from your visit won't make or break him. LOL Good luck! You will do just fine. jan