What is your emotional IQ?

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Registered: 03-11-2004
What is your emotional IQ?
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Mon, 05-02-2005 - 9:38am

Take the quiz & share if you'd like. jan


http://quiz.ivillage.com/health/tests/eqtest.htm



 

 


 



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Registered: 03-11-2004
Mon, 05-02-2005 - 9:41am
This was a really hard one. But here goes:) jan

You scored 60% correct!

Your score indicates that you have an average EQ.


People who typically score in this range are usually able to recognize and understand their feelings as well as are able to express them in an appropriate manner. They are fairly comfortable with who they are. In most circumstances they are not afraid to show love, empathy, and compassion for other people. In general, they are comfortable with intimacy, and giving of themselves to other people.

In addition, they are fairly good communicators. They are fairly in tune with themselves and those around them. They know how to say the right thing at the right moment. They are good friends and partners. They normally are able to show anger in appropriate ways. More often than not they are able to stand up for themselves when necessary, but also are not afraid to cry if they are hurt. They are able to admit when they are wrong and make steps to correct their mistakes. They are rarely unable to say they are sorry.

They are pretty much happy, well-rounded people. They can accept challenges. They can stay motivated and focused in the face of setbacks. They are able to set goals for themselves and often achieve them. They are positive and optimistic about themselves, the others around them, and their future.

However, just because people with an average EQ have a pretty good grasp on their emotions they still have plenty of room for emotional growth. They can continue to be introspective. They can continue to communicate with the people around them and continue to work on their goals. They can utilize what they have and continue to identify areas within themselves that need work.

Remember that a person's emotional intelligence never stops growing. Because we are always evolving as a person, EQ is something that must be nurtured. If it is not cultivated, emotional intelligence will disappear.

We wish you the best of luck on your continuing journey!





 

 


 



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Registered: 01-17-2001
Mon, 05-02-2005 - 11:06am

Here's mine!
I have to say that I think this is 100% untrue in my opinion.
I am a very open emotional person. I don't have a problem stating my feelings. I am truly suprised at how this came out....Heather

You scored 55% correct!
Your score indicates that you have a below average EQ.
People who typically score in this range sometime have a hard time recognizing and understanding their feelings. They are not always able to express their feelings in the most appropriate manner. They often have doubts and concerns about who they really are. They do not have much confidence in themselves and in their abilities. In most circumstances, they have a difficult time showing love, empathy, and compassion for other people. In general, they are not comfortable with intimacy.

In addition, they have a difficult time communicating with other people. They struggle to get in tune with themselves and those around them. They may sometimes say the wrong thing at the wrong moment. They can have a hard time showing their anger or dealing with anger directed at them. At times they are unable to stand up for themselves when hurt or are inappropriate in their confrontations. They may have a hard time admitting when they are wrong; and, when they do make mistakes, they often are not comfortable apologizing to those who they hurt.

People with below average EQ may also have few feelings of self-worth. They do not like challenges or commitment and are afraid of change. They have a difficult time staying motivated and focused when they have set unachievable goals for themselves. They are fairly pessimistic about themselves and their future.

However, one great thing about emotional intelligence is that it's isn't fluid! A person can increase his or her EQ at any point of life! People with below average EQ can start by learning how to identify emotions and take responsibility for them. There are many resources to help. People with low EQ can read books about EQ and social skills, do EQ workbooks, see a counselor, join a support group, or take an anger management course. They can enroll in communication skill courses, keep a feeling journal, and ask their friends to help them recognize the things about themselves that need correcting. If these things are done there is no doubt that they can increase their emotional intelligence and live a healthy, happy life!

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Sources:

Goleman, D. (1995). Emotional Intelligence: Why it can matter more than IQ. New York: Bantam Books.

Mayer, J.D., DiPaolo, M.T., and Salovey, P. (1990). "Perceiving affective content in ambiguous visual stimuli: A component of emotional intelligence." Journal of Personality

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Mon, 05-02-2005 - 12:36pm
There are no right or wrong answers. There isn't even a pass or fail, Heather. I was kinda surprised by what I got, cause sometimes, I let other ppl walk all over me & suffer in silence. I think the key word is *sometimes.* How you answered today, may very well be influenced by things going on today. I think you did just fine. We are all works in progress. Ok, maybe I am the only work in progress. LOL
 

 


 



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Registered: 09-01-2004
Mon, 05-02-2005 - 1:03pm

FWIW:

You scored 80% correct!
Your score indicates that you have an above average EQ.
People that typically score in this range are able to recognize and understand their feelings as well as are able to express them in an appropriate manner. They are comfortable with who they are. They are not afraid to show love, empathy, and compassion for other people. They are comfortable with intimacy and comfortable about giving of themselves to other people.

In addition, they are very good communicators. They are very in tune with themselves and those around them. In most circumstances they know how to say the right thing at the right moment. They are good friends and partners. They are able to show anger in appropriate ways and are not afraid to stand up for what they believe.They are, also, not afraid to cry if they are hurt. They are not afraid to admit that they are wrong or embarrassed to say they are sorry.

They are typically happy, well-rounded people. They are able to easily accept challenges and are able to stay motivated and focused in the face of setbacks. They are able to set and achieve goals for themselves. They are positive and optimistic about themselves, the others around them, and their future.

Also, remember that emotional intelligence never stops growing. Since people are always evolving, EQ is something that is to be nurtured. If it is not cultivated, a person's emotional intelligence will disappear. Online Psych would like to encourage people to utilize the emotional intelligence that they have and continue to identify and work on areas within themselves that need work. If this is done a person's EQ will continue to flourish!

We wish you the best of luck on your continuing journey!

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Mon, 05-02-2005 - 1:11pm
Way to go, gf! (((hugs))) jan



 

 


 



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Registered: 01-26-2005
Mon, 05-02-2005 - 6:58pm

I got a 55, like someone else did, so I didn't copy the whole page.

Renee

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-02-2005 - 8:51pm

This is me, Jan.

You scored 65% correct!
Your score indicates that you have an average EQ.

People who typically score in this range are usually able to recognize and understand their feelings as well as are able to express them in an appropriate manner. They are fairly comfortable with who they are. In most circumstances they are not afraid to show love, empathy, and compassion for other people. In general, they are comfortable with intimacy, and giving of themselves to other people.

In addition, they are fairly good communicators. They are fairly in tune with themselves and those around them. They know how to say the right thing at the right moment. They are good friends and partners. They normally are able to show anger in appropriate ways. More often than not they are able to stand up for themselves when necessary, but also are not afraid to cry if they are hurt. They are able to admit when they are wrong and make steps to correct their mistakes. They are rarely unable to say they are sorry.

They are pretty much happy, well-rounded people. They can accept challenges. They can stay motivated and focused in the face of setbacks. They are able to set goals for themselves and often achieve them. They are positive and optimistic about themselves, the others around them, and their future.

However, just because people with an average EQ have a pretty good grasp on their emotions they still have plenty of room for emotional growth. They can continue to be introspective. They can continue to communicate with the people around them and continue to work on their goals. They can utilize what they have and continue to identify areas within themselves that need work.

Remember that a person's emotional intelligence never stops growing. Because we are always evolving as a person, EQ is something that must be nurtured. If it is not cultivated, emotional intelligence will disappear.

Chrystal

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Registered: 07-31-2003
Mon, 05-02-2005 - 11:18pm

Jan - I did not do so well!
Sarah

You scored 25% correct!
Your score indicates that you have a low EQ.
People that typically score in this range have a very hard time recognizing and understanding their feelings. They are not always able to express their feelings in an appropriate manner. They often have doubts and concerns about who they are and what they want out of life. They have little confidence in themselves and their abilities. In most circumstances, they have a difficult time showing love, empathy, and compassion for other people. In general, they are not comfortable with intimacy.

In addition, people with low EQ's have a difficult time communicating with other people. They struggle to get in tune with themselves and those around them. They often say the wrong thing at the wrong moment. They have a hard time showing their anger or dealing with anger directed at them. They either are not able to stand up for themselves when hurt or upset or they go ballistic when confronting others. They have a hard time admitting when they are wrong. When they do make mistakes they are often not able to apologize to those they hurt.

People with a low EQ generally have a low feeling of self-worth. They do not like challenges. They shun commitment. They are afraid of change. They have a hard time staying motivated and focused in the face of setbacks. They are not able to set achievable goals for themselves, and often give up trying in the process. They are pessimistic about themselves and their future.

However, one great thing about emotional intelligence is that it isn't fluid! A person with low EQ can increase the EQ at any point of life!

People with low EQ should start by learning how to identify their emotions and take responsibility for them. There are many resources to enable them to do this. They can read books about EQ and social skills, do EQ workbooks, see a counselor, join a support group, or take anger management course. They can enroll in communication skill courses. They can keep a feeling journal. They can ask their friends to help them recognize the things about themselves that need correcting. If they do these things there is no doubt that they can increase their emotional intelligence and live a healthy, happy life!

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Tue, 05-03-2005 - 4:53am
Great to hear from you, Chrystal! I am hoping you're in a good place with the anxiety. I sure do miss you:) (((hugs))) jan



 

 


 



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Registered: 03-11-2004
Tue, 05-03-2005 - 5:02am
We'll try this again in a couple of months. I am positive most will see an improvement. When in the grip of anxiety, we tend to be critical of ourselves. Down the road when we're relaxed, we'll see things in a much different light. For now, I know I will be more on top of my reactions & my ability to communicate. This is just a tool & it can work to our advantage.
 

 


 



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