I DID IT FINALLY !!!!!!!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
I DID IT FINALLY !!!!!!!!
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Sun, 05-08-2005 - 9:58am

I stood up for myself w/ my mom!!! I can't believe I finally did it, I think therapy is finally paying off ; p


Here is a post that I put on the bipolar board, it's just too much to retype. If you make it to the end thanks for reading.


Hugs & Positive Thoughts Always,

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Registered: 01-17-2001
Sun, 05-08-2005 - 7:28pm

Hi Danielle,
Well I am happy that you stood up for yourself and feel better.
It is encouraging for me to hear someone say that therapy is paying off.

I think that you are 100% correct in what you said. You certinally don't want your kids around all sorts of fighting.

Did you call her at all today?

I'm sure that it was hard to do and good for you for doing what you felt was right...:)

~Heather

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Sun, 05-08-2005 - 7:43pm
Moms & dds have their share of troubles. I hope & pray you have found the balance that you need, Danielle. That is so hard for us. Noone expects you to be a doormat.
 

 


 



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Registered: 07-21-2004
Sun, 05-08-2005 - 7:54pm
Way to Go,Danielle! I am sure that was a very hard thing to do,so you should be proud of yourself! I too hope you did speak to your mom today, and I hope you are having a wonderful MOM'S DAY too! hugs, shasta
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Mon, 05-09-2005 - 12:55am
Yes, I spoke w/ my mother today, she called to wish me a happy mothers day and to also tell me that she won't be coming to visit. Oh well, that's her loss not mine.


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Registered: 01-17-2001
Mon, 05-09-2005 - 10:41am
Even though you feel as though you did the right thing I can imagine that it is hard for you anyway.. are you doing ok?
~Heather
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Mon, 05-09-2005 - 3:11pm

Believe it or not Heather, I'm feeling good about this. I know now that there is almost no way she will get out here this summer. My dad wants dd to come to visit in June while dh is gone, then when he gets back his parents will be coming to visit, I'd like to get out to Ohio to visit my best friend this summer and then school will be back in session. Plus mom's job is putting a halt to vacations after July 5 so I seriously doubt she'll get out here at all but I still feel that it's her loss. She has seen ds 2x in his entire life, he is 5 now. My children don't really know who she is and for as reliable as she has proved to be that just might be for the better. They have two other sets of grandparents that love them and make efforts to see them and talk on the phone with them.


I can hardly believe it but I feel good about this. I've been keeping a box that I am to put 1 positive thought in per day, I've dubbed it my love box, In that box I put "I stood up for myself to my mother" the night we had the fight and that felt good. I'm actually ok with this. I'm not sure if I'm just gaining strength, if my lithium is kicking in, maybe both, but it was empowering to stand up to my mom. I have also promised myself not to call her until she calls me and that's not to

Hugs & Positive Thoughts Always,