a social anxiety question

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Registered: 12-18-2004
a social anxiety question
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Tue, 05-10-2005 - 6:20pm

Hey,
although its finals and there are many other things on my mind, i had a question to ask. In this i'm not sure if my social anxiety is standing in the way of the right thing to do. (oh, as an update from the last message i posted, taking pills is getting better. i just dont allow myself to think, pop it on the back of my tongue and use soda to swallow it, thanx to people who helped :) )

situation # 1- this one may be slightly controversial, but please look beyond that to the real issue. a few nights ago my Bf (who's graduating in 2 weeks) was looking up questions on drug testing at jobs. He is currently on hydocodones for back problems (herniated disc) and wasn't sure if it would come up if he had to take a drug test in looking for a job. he found a list of jobs who hair test (the more accurate one) and a company came up that this girl *Penny* at my job is going to get after graduation. i mentioned this, and he told me that I should let her know that they do this. she's the president of her sorority and unfortuantly in this town, the sororities arent really the community service type. there's just a lot of drinking, drugs and sex. i know that this girl has smoked pot, and does so probably often during the week (there is just nothing to do in this town!!) she's the student manager where i work and im friendly with her, but i dont think i know her well enough to say "oh we looked this up and found that this company does hair tests". i just dont feel comfortable with it. My bf insists that i should, since if she does keep smoking and they do give her the test, she'd fail and no one deserves that. i just dont know. i know that i should, but i just dont know her well enough to say it out of the blue, and im not working with her until next week.

thank you,

Liz

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Registered: 01-26-2005
Tue, 05-10-2005 - 8:15pm

If it were me, I'd feel uncomfortable telling her, but that's me...

Renee

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Registered: 12-18-2004
Tue, 05-10-2005 - 8:58pm

thanx! i know it must sound strange and not really social anxiety related, but for me it kinda is. In my mind i picture telling her, and having her just look at me really strangely and it being incredibly out of nowhere. in reality tho, she may like that i told her this information and not really care beyond that. i just cant get past my view of it. i've had this in other cases and have learned how to overcome it and realize that what people think really arent true, however because i dont really know this girl that well, its harder. thank you again tho

Liz

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Tue, 05-10-2005 - 11:52pm
Hi, Liz! I am so happy to hear that you are no longer an overly anxious pill swallower! You go, gf! As for the hair test, I wouldn't tell either. In fact, it wouldn't help much @ this juncture. Most hair testing is reliable up to 90 days after using the drugs. It would seem a bit late in my estimation. Besides, when *Penny* signed on to work there, I am
 

 


 



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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 05-11-2005 - 12:52am
Well, if your bf is so concerned, let him tell her.

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