Here comes my anxiety....

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Registered: 01-26-2005
Here comes my anxiety....
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Wed, 05-11-2005 - 5:13pm

Not a good day. The source of my anxiety? My husband. I'll spare you the history, and just tell you what he said today. He wants to quit the job he just got after being unemployed. Then he wants himself, our sons and I to move in with his parents. He wants to take care of his nursing-home condition father and the house and yard, etc. Oh, and we would have to buy a bigger house with his mom to do this. My in-laws are okay, but only for a few days max. I can't live with both of them! And, he wants ME to get the full-time job for benefits. OMG. I can't believe this. I have been through so much CRAP with this guy. Maybe I'm in the wrong forum here. I should be on a marriage one, but I don't like them too much. I'm not expecting an answer to fix my life... I just needed to vent. I feel like I might have a panic attack coming on. I hope it doesn't get that far!

Renee

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Registered: 01-17-2001
Wed, 05-11-2005 - 9:36pm

Hi Renee,
I am sorry to hear what your going through.
It sounds to me as though you dh isn't looking out for you. Does he really just not want to work or is he really having major issues? I know you you were wondering the same thing.

I really don't think that its fair of him to ask you to move and sell your house. Thats a huge move especially for your Boys. You say that you can't really take your IL's for a long period of time, I think that it would be very hard for you to live with them.

AND he wants you to get a full time job... do you work now? I think that he needs to take more responsibilty for his family.

Of course all this depends on his motives, is he really suffering or is hje plaing games with you.

I don't have any real advice for you BUT as Suz had said to people you need to take care of YOU 1ST.
I feel so awful that you are suffering over this, you shouldn't have to deal with all of this, you have anxiety issues and this just shouldn't be happening.

If you need to chat let me know, you can email me anytime. If I can do anything at all let me know. I will help you as best I can..

((HUGS))
Heather

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Wed, 05-11-2005 - 11:25pm
This is alot of change for any person. It's almost like giving up the life you know. Other than yard work(OMG!) what extra responsibility is your dh planning to take on? Will he take care of his father? With you working full time, will he take care of the boys? You need relationship help, Renee & I am least equipped to give it. I don't do relationships. LOL Hopefully someone will come along with great advice. For now, I'm glad you can come here to vent. Sending T&P's your way. (((hugs))) jan



 

 


 



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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 05-11-2005 - 11:37pm
Well Renee what a heck of a "pickle" you are in and I'm not sure just how you are going to back out of this one.

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