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Renee (snickybun)
| Thu, 05-12-2005 - 10:54am |
Renee,
I just wanted to see how your doing today?
~Heather
I just wanted to see how your doing today?
~Heather
| Thu, 05-12-2005 - 10:54am |
Heather,
Thanks for asking! I feel kind of bad, or out of place, posting about my marriage problems on the board. Although they cause me anxiety, sometimes chronic, sometimes severe, I just feel like I'm whining.
Today, he called to tell me that he got a written warning, after 2-3 previous verbal warnings. He and his boss actually discussed whether he should quit, or if the boss should lay him off, etc. (difference is getting unemployement). He only has two months of unemployment left, from being let go his last job in September. And we are barely making ends meet WITH the job. I think yesterday's plan fell by the wayside, as his dad was placed in a home yesterday. He didn't mention the plan either way, just that he had a bad day yesterday, buried a dead bunny from his mom's yard (we both love bunnies), and then he broke down. I'm not sure what he meant by that, I didn't ask. But he talked to his brother also last night, and his brother said not to go into the meeting like a dog with his tail between his legs, like he usually does -- to be strong and tell the manager he is not going to tell him he doesn't work hard, or whatever.
Either way, he WILL lose his job, probably this week. I told him, when he moves back home, he needs to work on himself, ALOT (did I say that in the other post?), and that I expect him to take ANY job when unemployment starts to run out. If he doesn't do this, or if he gets another job, and loses it again, I have decided I cannot go on with this marriage.
There is a LOT of not-so-nice history to this marriage, and I think maybe it's run its course. All I know it, I cannot tolerate the constant crises he seems to create or attract, not sure which. And, it isn't good for the kids, either.
So, in answer to your question, I am hanging in there. I feel anxiety most of the time, but I am holding it together, for now. It will be more difficult to deal with, I think, when he moves back. Because he can be suffocating and/or controlling. Sigh.
I guess it's just more wait and see...
Renee