My nerves are so fried.............
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My nerves are so fried.............
| Sat, 05-14-2005 - 10:30am |
I'm sorry if you all are sick of hearing about this but I just can't help it. I'm really frazzled about dh leaving. I'm not sure which part of it has me so nervous and I don't want him to know that it's this bad for me. I want him to feel comfortable leaving me because he needs to focus on this class, it's supposed to be quite rough. I think that

Danielle,
I am so sorry that you are having to deal with this. My dh is only going away for 5 days and I am upset about it.
I suppose that the xanax should be your best friend at this point. It'll help to get you through.
The only thing that I can think of to help you would be to take on some projects.. are their any home improvements that you really want to get done? Maybe paint so walls of rearrange closets or something like that.
That may help you and give you something to focus on and something to accomplish before he gets back.
Does he come home on weekends, I know when I worked for Unitd Airlines I used to go away for long oeriods of time but I always flew home for the weekend...
I will help you and be here for you as best I can, you cen email me at any time of even call if you'd like.
When is he leaving?
((HUGS))
Heather
He leaves on Sunday and won' t be back until about June 25th. He will be in mississippi so no he won't be coming home for weekends. I won't see him for 5 weeks : (
I do have a lot to keep busy, I am working with my step mom, I have iV and I've been doing a lot of reading lately so I'm sure I'll be able to keep busy.
I just hope the time passes as quickly as it came. Thanks for being there, I know that the lovely members of iV will keep me going and help me through this.
Hugs & Positive Thoughts Always,
Jan,
Dh leaves next sunday so I still have a week and the only day he has to work before he leaves is friday so we have all week together. I'm actually starting a plan for myself. I'm going to stick to my normal morning routine because that keeps me sane but after my morning cup of coffee I'm going to get on our treadmill and start working out. Then after I shower I can take the kids to the park, the library, things like that and then I also have my work and my iV commitments which I love so I think I'll stay pretty busy. Plus I have some books I'm waiting for at the library and reading is always good for me. Oh, I also picked up a journal, I plan on doing that while he is gone as well.
Hugs & Positive Thoughts Always,
Anticipation is a big enemy of mine!! I HATE WAITING for anything!!
It sounds like you have made some good plans to keep busy which is
a good idea!! I know how you feel about xanax LOL
Your hubby loves you and will be back!! Keep reminding yourself of that!!
A journal is a good idea as well--- maybe some poems for hubby's welcome home??
We will keep you busy! =0) Take care and email me anytime! Love ya, Judy
Please know we are all thinking of you, and will always be here for you. And like the other gals said, keep busy, especially with doing things you enjoy. You could maybe even keep a journal, and send it to dh weekly. That might be nice for both of you, because I bet he will be lonely without you too! :0)
Hang in there. We are here for you. hugs, shasta
p.s. I understand your feelings too about 'not wanting him to know how bad it is for you'
I go through that too. I never want to worry my dh, because he has enough to worry about already.
But I think us gals do this because we always worry about everyone else before we worry and care about ourselves...How did we get to become so lucky to be 'the worriers?' LOL!
Thank you Shasta & Judy,
The anticipation of it all is killing me not to mention that I am terrified of him
Hugs & Positive Thoughts Always,
Oh, Danielle, I feel so bad you have to go through this. Like I've said before, everything fell apart for me when my husband (then boyfriend) was deployed, and that was only for 3 or 4 weeks to Yuma! I had the same fears, that he'd cheat on me ... but I knew in my heart he wouldn't. We talked on the phone every night and that always made me feel better. School will be tough for your husband and will take up most of his time. I don't think the guys have as much time on their hands when they're away as we imagine. I've learned that the military wives that talk about the cheating husbands are the ones whose marriages aren't strong, where we are, they were usually very young wives. The ones with strong marriages are very independent and confident. They don't have the fears that I once did. Your husband will be missing you and your son just as much as you are missing him. I love your plan for keeping busy. I shut down, did read, but spent the whole month going between work & the couch. It was my own fault, and no wonder I started having major panic & stopped driving! It was all in my head. I wish you luck, and I'll "see" you on the chat. Keep your spirits up! Like you said, school is tough! We just returned to Cherry Pt, and I don't want to make close friends either - we've moved 3 times in 4 years! And xanax is my best friend, too, lol!
Sheri Ann
Sheri Ann
Thank you Sheri Ann, From one military wife to another.
Hugs & Positive Thoughts Always,