Which affects your anxiety more??

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Which affects your anxiety more??
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Thu, 05-19-2005 - 12:27am
Is it anger or fear?

Blessings, Suz   Posts in this Community   

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Thu, 05-19-2005 - 2:00am
I agree with you totally,Suz.
I believe it is both emotions that affect my anxiety.
I worry after being angry, and I worry after being in a fearful situation too. No fun!
I think ppl like us care SO much, that is why we have a more sensitivity to anxiety...
For example, if me and my dh get in a tiff, I worry all nite, and it doesn't even stop at that...Typically symptoms...mad,angry,sad,then worry that I hurt dh (guilt),then just sad...Which makes me even more anxious. And I feel guilty everytime, even if I wasn't the cause of the arguement...(or at least I don't think I was! LOL! Honestly tho', I do apologize if I am wrong,and even then,I still feel guilty! So go figure!)

How are you doing Suz? I haven't gotten to read all the posts lately, but it seems like I hadn't heard anything from you for a couple days. Are you doing ok? So funny you posted because I was thinking of you today! Were your ears ringing? hee hee!
I hope things are going well for you, and to hear from you real soon! :0) hugs,shasta
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Registered: 03-11-2004
Thu, 05-19-2005 - 8:23am
I have to say both, too, Suz. Anger always gets me second guessing my actions. *What if I had done this?* or *What if I had
 

 


 



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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-19-2005 - 9:27am
I'm on board with both too. Right now fear is driving me, dh is leaving, will he make it to biloxi safe? will he cheat on me? etc etc Of course then I get mad at myself for thinking such stupid things because I know they are ridiculous. It does work the other way around, I scratched the rim on my new car a couple of weeks ago, at first I was so angry and then I was afraid dh was going to be mad and when I got home and he wasn't then I was mad again. It's such a vicious circle : (


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Registered: 04-07-2003
Thu, 05-19-2005 - 8:56pm
For me the two are connected! My therapist said fear is anger turned inward-
for me this true. When I am angry it is often because I am afraid of something.
Someone else's anger toward me leads to fear immediately! Then I end up saying
and doing things that I regret! So the anxiety starts and the questioning!
I did grow up in a house where there was too much anger and I was fearful most
of the time. Which I believe created my problems with anxiety.
OH what a question! Take care all, Judy