New 2 M. board / Anxiety and cheating Hu

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Registered: 05-23-2005
New 2 M. board / Anxiety and cheating Hu
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Thu, 05-26-2005 - 12:35pm
I have been suffering from anxieties and panic attacks since 2001, maybe even before that.I was on paxil for about 4 months then just therapy. Then again last year I started Lexapro for 6 months. I just stoped taking it on the first week of March this year. Ever since then I have an anxiety attack every week but not as intense as before. About 2 weeks ago I started having them everyday and as intese as before the medication. So I made an appointment with my doctor this monday.
Yesterday was my 3 year anniversary and I was doing bills, I started checking my e-mail and my husbands to see if we had any reminders of any bill we had to pay or had not paid and I found an e-mail where my husband was e-mailing someone trying to get together in a hotel in february. They both said they were telling each other they were married and that they had to be descrete. I confronted him about it and he did not respond to my questions about the e-mail. All he would say is that ever since he's known me he has never cheated on me, he has done nothing wrong. Then he got angry because I was snooping around his e-mail. He did not want to talk about the e-mail,he said that any questions about that e-mail did not deserve and answer because he had told me that he did not do anything worng and he has never been unfaithful to me.The worse part of it all is that the person he was going to meet in a hotel was a man.
Needles to see my anxiety is going off the roof, I just took an antidepresent that I was prescribed by the doctor before. I have no idea what to do about my husband and to make matters worse I am feeling depress, so much that I am still in bed I have not gotten ready for work, I think I will not go in today, I do not have the will to get up or anything. Please someone help me
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Registered: 01-17-2001
Thu, 05-26-2005 - 1:12pm

Hi,


Wow you certinally have a lot on your plate right now.


As far as your anxiety and panic goes.. can I ask why you stopped taking the lexapro? I started taking it 6 weeks ago I was told that most people are on it for at least a year to achieve the maximum effect and to stabelize you.


You did the right thing but calling your Dr. but I am concerned that you took and antidepressent that w. as prescribed to you before this.

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Registered: 05-23-2005
Thu, 05-26-2005 - 2:24pm
Well, see my Dr. he said that I was going to take lexapro only for 6 months otherwise you can get addicted. So I belived him, he took me out of it gradually and said that when I am finally of Lexapro that I might have some anxiety attacks because of the craving for the medication. I did, I would have one ever week for 3 months, finally 2 weeks ago I was having one ever night. I called him made and appointment, he saw me and asked if I was sure I was having these anxieties again. ARE YOU SURE?... that just raised a red flag in me, then he said that because of all that we have been talking since we started he thinks I might be bypolar also. I said ok, so he gave me some medication, that I cannot remember what its called, as a mood stabilizer. Well the first 2 days I started taking it, I felt so lazy..hmmm, I did not have the strenght or the will to get up, make dinner or lunch for my kids, or anything. I though I was just depress because I was sad that I was going to start taking pills again. It continued and even my dh said that I loooked depress. So I looked up the mdication and Guess what? its for seizures, had nothing to do with bypolar or anxieties or anything like that. So my mom got me an appointment with her doctor on monday. Ok and the side effects of this medication was guess? Depression...Aint that great!!!
Going back to my dh, I think my anxiesties where because I thought I had a lousy marriage, hardly any intimacy, half of your time were spend arguing, when he got mad he spoke to me like I was nothing. So, this has opened my eyes to something, all this was not my fault. It him, no intimacy? because he has some issues that he needs to fix, arguing? because he had problems with himself and he was taking it out on me. etc... This situation, has to make me better and either make my marriage better or break it up. Which is not so good, but if God put this in my path, is because he wants me to become stronger for me and my daughter.
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Registered: 03-11-2004
Thu, 05-26-2005 - 2:39pm

Hi! Nice to see you posting in our kind & caring community. You are not alone. Many of us have learned to live with anxiety disorders. You can, too. Please consider the facts that a combination of meds & therapy prove most successful. Other methods can work & we will support you no matter what your choice. Getting guidance from professionals is a must. We can share our experiences, but we aren't doctors or pharmacists.


 

 


 



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Registered: 01-17-2001
Thu, 05-26-2005 - 2:42pm

Oh, I see. I am on lexapro and I have been told my PCP and pdoc that it is safe to be on forever. I know that it may be hard to come off of but I didn;t know of any issues with being addicted.


Can I ask what you were prescribed? The meds that was used for seizures? I know that many meds have dual uses, my dh was on amitriptaline (sp) for migranes but it is also used as an anti depressent.


You sound strong and at this point you just have to be there for yourself and your dd. Take care of the both of you 1st and hope that you dh will be there to support you.


P&PT


Heather

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Registered: 05-23-2005
Thu, 05-26-2005 - 3:23pm

The med is called Lamictal thats the brand name, generic is called
LAMOTRIGINE -ORAL.

WARNING:
Rarely, serious (sometimes fatal) skin rashes have occurred while using this medication. These rashes (e.g., Stevens-Johnson syndrome) are more common in children (less than 16 years old) than in adults. Therefore, lamotrigine should only be used in children who have partial seizures or seizures associated with Lennox-Gastaut syndrome.

USAGE:
This medication helps control seizure disorders.

Use of lamotrigine in children 2 years of age and older is restricted to those having certain types of seizures (partial or Lennox-Gastaut type).

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Registered: 01-17-2001
Thu, 05-26-2005 - 3:45pm

Why on earth did your Dr. give you that for anxiety?


Heather

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Registered: 05-23-2005
Thu, 05-26-2005 - 3:59pm
I do not know, I called him and asked him, he said it was a mood stabilizer and I told him that, thats not what the internet said...I changed doctors. Oh and I said that I took and antidepresent. I did not what I took was Xanax... sorry for the mistake
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Registered: 01-17-2001
Thu, 05-26-2005 - 4:35pm

Good thing you changed Dr.s ...


Anyway if I can help you at all let me know, I am very new to this and a SAHM so I am always around.


I has literally been raining here for the last 6 days straight... we have been housebound.


Heather