Feeling so dejected....

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Registered: 04-21-2005
Feeling so dejected....
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Tue, 06-14-2005 - 12:13am

Hello all, this is my first post here--I'm hoping I can get some support & feedback. I suffer from anxiety and depression (currently taking medication for both). Today my ex called me & told me that my teenage daughter wants to live with him & his wife (his sixth marriage, her fifth). He lives 300 miles away from us. A little background: my husband (of 14 yrs) & I thought it would be a good idea to get her away from here for the summer since she & her boyfriend decided that they wanted to get married---she's only 16!

I feel so frustrated because I thought I was finally making some progress & my medications seemed to be helping. This is the calmest I have ever felt. Then I get this news about my daughter & just fall apart. It feels like all the progress was for nothing, things just don't work out somehow. My husband is out of town today & he is my biggest supporter & it's not a good time for him to be away.

Another aspect of this situation is that it is bringing up so many feelings from my youth. Bad feelings....I grew up in a very abusive home but have dealt with all this in therapy. My relationship with my own mother was horrible due to her own depression/anxiety issues. I have worked so hard at being a good mother & I feel like I've failed.

Thanks for listening---R.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 12:28am

First, welcome to our community.

Blessings, Suz   Posts in this Community   

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 12:34am

Hi, R. Nice to have you here. You are not alone. This is the best place to be to discuss anxiety & depression. Please bookmark us to your favorites & make us your online home. Join in the discussions & check out our evening chats. Danielle has one @ 9pm tom. night.


I have a 17 yo that has multiple problems & lots of times I think I'm one of them. She sure likes to tell me I am. LOL

 

 


 



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Registered: 04-21-2005
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 10:49am

To both CL's that responded---thanks very much.

After sleeping on it, I'm feeling calmer today. I agree that things don't have to be decided right away & I'm going to try to keep that in mind. I've been like this my whole life---my therapist says that when something unexpected happens--I get upset. It's a behavior from childhood---with all the drama I grew up with, it's hard to realize that at the time & just relax. It's my natural reaction to unexpected things & I am working on changing it. I notice that it's getting better because a long time ago I would have done some stupid impulsive thing---like going & picking my daughter up that very moment.

Thanks again & have a great day!