Dreams Reveal Hidden Stress?
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| Thu, 06-16-2005 - 10:21pm |
I had two strange dreams last night about events in my life that I have not thought about for a long while. I was wondering if my dreams were revealing hidden stressors of issues I have not resolved? Has anyone else suffering from anxiety have telling dreams?
Anyway, I've been suffering from severe anxiety for the last 3 months. I didn't think or realize I was stressed. Most of my stress was last year when I lost my dad, had two jobs and then lost my job. So when anxiety hit me recently it felt very out of the blue. Now, through relaxation cds, yoga and learning about how to handle anxiety I am feeling almost recovered...just a few minor set backs. And now these dreams...
In the first dream I was drinking out of my favorite glass. It was broken and I picking out chards of glass from my mouth while continuing to drink more water. Then it hits me like a ton of bricks that my father will never see my newborn baby. And he always asked me to have a child before he died. Tears are streaming down my face. But, in the dream I realize that I am not pregnant (because in reality I am not pregnant) and in fact having trouble conceiving (another stressor).
I wake up and feel a tremdous amount of sadness and fall back asleep and have this second dream almost immediately. In this dream I am having a very intimate moment with an old boyfriend whom I loved very dearly. (In reality we broke up because he needed to sort things out. When he contacted me again I was dating my husband. I love my husband with all my heart, but we have a very difficult marriage. Mostly because although my husband has a good heart, he is a very difficult person). Back to the dream, I am sitting on the ex's lap and we are talking very tenderly about his fears and I tell him he can trust me and I promise I will always be there for him. We cry and hold each other. I wake up feeling sad from the emotions in the dream, but quickly started wondering where the heck this dream about this old boyfriend whom I can't even remember the last time I even thought about him, came from? I start feeling guilty and sad because I know it would hurt my husband if he knew I had this dream.
I've tried not to make too much out of the dreams and tried all day not to think about it. But I can't get rid of the terrible sadness these dreams brought me. I was doing so great until these dreams came along. I know it's just another minor set back...but a small part of me is wondering if they are my subconcious revealing itself to me and if this has happened to any of you? It's probably just nothing.
Edited 6/17/2005 12:23 am ET ET by bluebelle613

Dreams can be disturbing @ times. From what I have read, the current school of thought feels that we work out our day to day problems through our dreams. Whether they are subconscious driven or prophetic(telling us something) I think the jury is still out.
Check the new post today under *what's new on health.* It may have some answers for you. Good luck & GB! (((hugs))) jan
I used to dream of my old bf when things with my dh got rough, too. I think it's just the mind's way of going back to a simpler time. Even though I did love this old bf, I know he's an arsehole, lol.
As far as the glass of water, maybe you can do an internet search for dream interpretations, and see what you find out.
Good luck,
Renee
P.S. I am remember my dreams much more often when I am stressed.
Edited 6/17/2005 12:06 am ET ET by snickybun
Very interesting that an article on dreams would appear the same day I had these dreams. Especially when the article says they never discuss dreams, but have since so many people ask about them.
Thanks Jan and Renee for your responses and the hugs.
i thought there was a board on just this topic on iv, but now i can't find it!
Sheri Ann
Sheri Ann
I have the same feelings as you. I too have dreamt of my old bf, and it has mainly been when times were tough with dh. Altho my old bf was really a great guy, not an arsehole as you said! LOL! The timing was just never right, and we were young, 18, too much of life to still see, and we never were at the right place in life to connect. When one of us was single, the other was attached, and vise versa...I miss him, but have made the choice to never have contact with him, because I don't feel that would be fair to dh. And you know what, I would rather remember him as he was, and the times we shared as fond memories...I know we are both different ppl now, so I would be happy to have that time as a memory...I am rambling! SORRY! I have had some weird dreams tho lately too, so I want to do a separate post for that! Hope you guys all have good sweet dreams tonite! hugs, shasta
Shasta,
That's a good decision, to not have contact. Kudos to you. There's a lot of sense in what you say, about wanting to just remember things the way they were. I posted to you on another thread, about how I have weird dreams, too. NExt time I have one, I should post it, lol.
Renee
Bluebelle, your dreams are very interesting. both dreams sort of deal with loss of a sort. I went to a dream interpretation site and here's what it says:
Dream symbol: glass
glass, glassy
Interpretation:
Glass symbolizes something that is transparent, open and honest
Seeing through somebody, seeing them for what they really are
Looking outwards through glass may indicate viewing the future or looking beyond self
Looking inwards through glass may indicate viewing the past or looking within
Viewing another chapter or phase of your life
A need to change your perspective, needing to view things in a different way
Broken glass may imply a shattered dream
If you're breaking glass in the dream it may indicate pursuing something that is unnecessarily destructive
A drinking glass may indicate containing your emotions rather than spilling them
Do you hold in your emotions a lot? In our dreams, our subconscious tries to work through emotions we have. why now? Maybe you saw a commercial or tv show about fathers, or maybe you thought about your dad because today is father's day and it made you sad. I try to write down my dreams so I can interpret them later. Keep posting! M
Dear Momsers,
Wow! Those dream interpretations say a lot!
It brought tears to my eyes when I read about broken glass representing broken dreams. Because in the dream my husband had broken my favorite drinking glass and I still drank from it, picking the chards of glass from my mouth. Suddenly wave of sadness fills me as I remember that my deceased father will never see my baby and how much he wanted me to have a child before he died. Then I realize that I am not even pregnant. We've been trying for almost three years now.
It could be a combination of broken dreams and witholding feelings. Sometimes my husband is supportive of my feelings, but on many occasions he denies my feelings.
You are also correct. I am nearing the 1 year anniversary of my father's death.
Thanks for looking up dreams for me!