When I'm with him

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Registered: 02-28-2005
When I'm with him
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Thu, 06-23-2005 - 1:24pm

Hi again ladies - Thanks for your help this morning :-)

I just got back from lunch with my BF ... wouldn't have missed it for the world. But the whole time, even though we were sharing stories about our day and laughing and even talking about my anxiety a bit, I couldn't keep the thoughts from running through my head "What if I feel differently? Why am I not as affectionate as before? I know that I love him but why doesn't it feel like it right now?" I feel so crazy. It's like I'm there, doing what I've always been doing and what I want to be doing, but I'm not there ... my mind is totally somewhere else. Do I still feel the same? Is this just the anxiety taking control of me? I need to get my old self back!

Any thoughts or opinions? I need to calm down...




Edited 6/23/2005 3:35 pm ET ET by hopelesslydevoted197
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Registered: 04-18-2003
Thu, 06-23-2005 - 4:12pm

Did the xanax help at all this morning? I think you should take it more often while you go through this difficult period. Perhaps you should call the prescribing doc for some guidance or go to a pdoc and explain what's going on to him/her. What you describe is "normal" for someone with anxiety. I hope you feel better soon. Don't forget, we have chat a 9 est tonight! I've been up since 5 a.m., hoping I won't fall asleep before chat starts!

Sheri Ann

Sheri Ann

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Registered: 05-12-2003
Thu, 06-23-2005 - 4:19pm

I think we can all relate to what you're going through. I was also really afraid of how anxiety would effect my relationship with my bf, and we ended up working through it just fine. do you have any other people in your life that you can talk about you're going through? this board is great, and it's good that you can talk with your bf about things, but it might be helpful to confide in a friend or your parents.
if it wasn't for my mom and my friends I dont think I couldn't have made it through difficult times with anxiety.

Mia