What to do with a unsupportive s/o?
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What to do with a unsupportive s/o?
| Sat, 06-25-2005 - 1:14am |
Hi,I just wanted your guys opinion on how to handle a delicate situation with a gf of mine. She also has anxiety/depression issues as well. Well tonite, I talked to her and she was very upset because her husband told her to prepare herself because he was ready to go file for divorce unless she got herself together. She was really upset because the last week or so she had made great efforts to control her anxieties and confront things she was not able to for a long time. Then he tells her he only said he was going to file for divorce to make her supposedly 'wake up and get her off her butt' (I could not believe this, but of course, I am only hearing one side of the story, but still, I didn't think that was a very effective way for him to handle the situation)
So my question to you guys is what do I say to my friend, other than to listen and support her, and tell her 'Good Job' for the accomplishments she has made so far? I don't want to interfere in their marriage, but I am a little disappointed that her dh is behaving this way. But like I said there are two sides...(I guess I am just lucky that my dh is so wonderful and great and supportive, I wished hers was the same way!)
Any suggestions?
Thanx! hugs, shasta
So my question to you guys is what do I say to my friend, other than to listen and support her, and tell her 'Good Job' for the accomplishments she has made so far? I don't want to interfere in their marriage, but I am a little disappointed that her dh is behaving this way. But like I said there are two sides...(I guess I am just lucky that my dh is so wonderful and great and supportive, I wished hers was the same way!)
Any suggestions?
Thanx! hugs, shasta

Blessings, Suz
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Your girlfriend needs your support but be careful with the
marriage part of it. There are two sides like you said plus
she may not be able to handle hearing that it sounds bad---
I would also suggest she talk to a therapist if she has not
already- I know she must feel even more lost!! Poor girl--
I hope that she can somehow work through this with her
husband but I know it all takes time and effort!! Take care, Judy
Hope you are having a relaxing and lovely Sunday! hugs, shasta
I had a gf with the same type of dilemma. Dh was a police officer and always claimed to be working late. I finally talked her into tapping their telephone & she found out the truth in less than 24 hours! Do I regret it? Nope. I supported her all along & just made a suggestion since she had so many doubts. She is now happily married to someone else.
Sheri Ann
Sheri Ann
How sad!! With anxiety and panic she probably has convinced herself
she needs him. Hopefully somehow she will see the truth and do
something to save herself from him. She is scared I am sure of
not being with him when in fact he is not really with her!!
She deserves so much better but has to want it! Take care, Judy
Thanx for letting me talk about my gf's. I know my dh has to be SOOO tired of hearing about their trials and tribulations! ;0)
Thanx for listenin! HUGS, shasta
Hey Shasta, I just caught up on all of this and agree w/what everyone else said. I think that couple definitely needs marriage counseling. Aren't we fortunate to have the DHs we do? Yep. You are good to be there for your friend, though.
Kendra