Is Anxiety Contagious.......
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| Wed, 07-06-2005 - 10:03am |
My husband is acting very uptight lately and he takes it out on either me or my oldest DD (4.5). One of the main reasons I fell in love with him was because he was very laid back and a calming influence on me. Now it seems lately that he is more the cause of my anxiety than the cure. I know it is my problem not his but he just seems to snap and pick at me for little things which causes me to "go into hiding" emotionally.
He often blames his mood on lack of sex, but who wants to get close physically with someone who is making you feel so emotionally bad??? I am going out with a friend tonight and he wants to make sure that I come home in a good mood and able to sleep with him. No pressure, right? I hate when he yells at me or my DD (always makes her cry). I am beginning to think I am putting her through my childhood. My dad was always a big yeller. How can I make him understand? I have been having difficulties with my medications and have been very anxious lately and it seems to be effecting him.
I want my old husband back. The one who helped calm me....
Alison

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Hugs & Positive Thoughts Always,
Alison,
it sounds like you already have a sense that the anxiety is what's causing the tension in your relationship and the change in your husband. Have you tried talking to him about it, and trying to sort things out? if that doesn't work, how about marriage counselling? or if you don't feel comfortable with that, perhaps you can invite him to sit in on one of your therapy sessions? that might be an extremely insightful experience for him.
as Danielle said, anxiety isn't contagious, but inevitably it affects people who are close to us and care about us.
I hope things get better,
mia
Blessings, Suz
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Thank you for your support. I know deep down that I am not the cause of his problems but I also know that my illness affects him and my DDs. I am doing my best to keep them from being affected but sometimes that is just not possible. A close friend of ours has noticed the change in him also and plans to get together with him on Friday to talk about it. I hope she has better luck. Maybe a third party opinion is what he needs.
Thanks again.
Alison