Anxiety ruined my relationship

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Anxiety ruined my relationship
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Fri, 07-15-2005 - 6:10pm
Well most of you know me or maybe don't but my anxiety just runined my relationship and it has happened before. I am in love with a women that is long distance but we made it work pretty well. I could not keep dealing with it and at my physical the doctor told me that acceptance of this is the key because we do not know the reason why it happens. I have it 30 times higher with women. We made it a year and I have been battling it on and off since then. I have had a few days or good weekends here and there and though maybe it was the separation anxiety. Also there were issues with me and my girl as far as me being the less stronger one in the relationship. I am sad and pissed because this whole thing surfaced again. Therapyu taught me it is nothing the women have done. I was on 150 mg of Luvox and that did little. I am just so lost with this whole thing. It should not be this hard.
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Registered: 03-11-2004
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 9:23pm
I remember you, Jay. I am very sorry to hear about this. Relationship anxieties seem to be cropping up alot lately. I don't mean for this to sound trite, but it takes 2 to tango. There are times in a relationship that it isn't evenly balanced. The partner should be willing to shoulder a bigger share until or in the event the other can't hold up their own. If that wasn't possible before a committment, than it's pretty unlikely after. You have learned something, Jay. You have more experience, albeit painful, under your belt. I know that in all losses you will need time to grieve. That is normal & expected. Please consider us your support network whenever you need us. Post often & join us in chat. As a man, you're in the minority on our board, but we welcome your unique perspective. Good luck & GBU! I agree that life IS very hard & those with anxiety find it so much harder. (((hugs))) jan



 

 


 



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Registered: 03-31-2003
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 11:08pm
Well I am not sure what will happen. I am not sure about what you mean? I have to get to know myself a little better and maybe here and I can work out for the future. I am just sad. We are not making any big decisions. We have overcome a lot being long distance and all. Thanks for you help. I was looking at a lot of happy couples on Park Ave. tonight at the outdoor cafes and resturants and how happy they looked. That is all I want and a lot of times there has not been any anxiety but it would creep up when I am home. When I went to see her the night before it would go awa??? My girl does not understand these illnesses and I cannot expect her to butshe tries I think. I just need some growing time and to figure this all out. It has been a year we made it a year together so there is something there.


Edited 7/15/2005 11:11 pm ET ET by nittyranks