Detachment

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Registered: 05-27-2005
Detachment
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Wed, 08-24-2005 - 2:08pm

As expected, I am having some trouble detaching during this trip. Thank God I am going home tomorrow morning. I have reacted a little bit, but you know, it really hurts.

I think I have enough mom issues to write a novel. One example is how I wanted to take her pic today, and twice she told me, "I have a lot of things on my mind," after I had told her that OK, if she doesn't want a pic taken, I won't take it. It would've been cute, too, with the cat and everything. It doesn't help when I say the pic is for my daughter, either!!! SO SELFISH.

I'm still reeling from that, but I'm holding it together. It just sucks. I don't think I will ever get over this.

There's my vent. I miss you gals and hope to chat with you soon.

Hugs,
Kendra

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Registered: 07-21-2004
In reply to: kschwitter
Wed, 08-24-2005 - 7:44pm
Hey Kendra-I am so sorry your mom is hurting your feelings, It sounded like you were doing pretty good so far together.
I think it would have been funny if you would have just taken her pic without her knowing what hit her! hee hee! It sounded like it would have been a great one!
You could try writing her a note tonite, and tell her you would really like a pic of her before you leave so you can put in Mia's baby book, Kinda like 'My first visit to Grandma's house' (Even tho' she hasn't been born yet!) I don't know, that is a hard one...I hope she changes her mind before you leave.
I promise to email you later this evening,k?
Please know I am sending you BIG HUGS! At least you will be home with your honey tomorrow! Yay! Be Safe and Take Care! hugs,shasta
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Registered: 05-27-2005
In reply to: kschwitter
Wed, 08-24-2005 - 7:50pm

I can't do that, Shasta. I just can't. I know it's tough to understand, but with those types of people, I just can't push. I do have pics of her from other stuff, so that makes it better.

I just have a lot of pain right now, thoughts about stuff. Who the hell knows when I'll heal.

Thanks for writing.

Kendra

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Registered: 04-07-2003
In reply to: kschwitter
Wed, 08-24-2005 - 9:32pm
Kendra OH JEEEEEEEEEEEEZ
You can have my pic anytime haha!!
Your mother and mine were cut from the same mold!
It grows on the bathroom tile---------
sorry but could not resist
YOU are leaving just in time to get out of the storm!
GOOD FOR YOU!! Just remember WHO she is and let it roll
off your brain. Love ya, Judy
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Registered: 07-21-2004
In reply to: kschwitter
Wed, 08-24-2005 - 10:51pm
Hey sweetie, I understand how you don't want to write a note like that, and also how you can't push someone to do something...It just breaks my heart that she is hurting you.
I am so glad you are going home, sounds like you are definitely ready.
We will talk for sure when you get back home, where you feel like you can chat,k?
I'll be waiting! You just take care of you and Mia, and have a safe trip home. I know your honey will be waiting for you with a big hug for you and Mia,both!
Love, shasta