"whatifing" again

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Registered: 05-29-2003
"whatifing" again
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Wed, 08-24-2005 - 8:15pm

Hi there,

It's me with the same ole stuff. I just talked to my friend and I think I am reading in to her tone. This is the one who got upset with me the other day over something she misunderstood. Now I am hypersensitive to her tone and her moods. I don't want to think it is me, but my mind keeps going there. I am feeling like I didn't do something right, or I said something wrong. I am trying not to give her so much power. I know, I should not be so scared or intimidated by my friends, or so scared that she is mad at me. I'm 35 for god's sake. Wasn't highschool over a long time ago?? UGG. I feel myself slipping into a major anxiety attack. Please help me. I know I didn't do anything wrong, and I keep reminding myself that. I am ok, I am ok, I"m a good friend. (yada, yada.) Pathetic. HUH? Thank you to anyone reading this. I appreciate it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-07-2003
Wed, 08-24-2005 - 9:42pm
HUGS FOR YOU!!!
You are over sensitive right now so
you are picking up on everything your friend does!
Since you did have a falling out this is a hard time
for you- Check out the book THE FOUR AGREEMENTS!!
DO NOT TAKE THINGS SHE SAYS OR DOES PERSONALLY unless
she tells you right out! I know so many times we all
feel like you do right now- try to stay positive in your
thinking I know it is hard! YES high school IS OVER
but some act like it is still going on!! LOL
Think of all the good things about yourself and remind
yourself of them everyday!! Be strong, Judy
eikooc742@aol.com if you want to send me a email....
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-11-2004
Thu, 08-25-2005 - 1:34pm
Hi, Jolie! I hope you're feeling better today. I know that anxiety can be hard. We seem to get ourselves on a *track* & simply can't move off that track. You really seem to be doing a good job when using the positive thoughts. That's a good way to overcome negative thinking from taking a firm grip. Remember to BELIEVE your positive thoughts. We believe in you. I have lots of confidence that you can move ahead. Please don't think you're pathetic. You are NOT! For now, you aren't coping @ your best. Give yourself some *me* time. Take a walk. Read a book. Join a club or the Y. Good luck & GBU! (((hugs))) jan