anxiety/depression and relationships

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Registered: 10-08-2004
anxiety/depression and relationships
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Fri, 08-26-2005 - 10:40pm

Hi there...
I don't know if what i am feeling right now is related to all this anxiety stuff i have going on in my head or what. i don't know that there is anything that can fix this other than me... but i thought maybe i'd feel better if i got this out there.

I feel like my boyfriend doesn't like me anymore. I don't think i have any solid evidence for this i think its a combination of things.... i live in nyc, he lives in boston, he isn't very emotionally open- rarely an "i miss you," etc...

i know that with his ex- he was emotionally out the relationship for awhile before he broke up with her- maybe i'm scared he's doing the same thing with me.

i've told him- in the best way i am able to how i felt. i told him he needs to tell me good things and when something is bad. he said he'd try better and "there's nothing bad now" of course in my paranoid overanalzing mind that means that there will be something and he knows it. i have this feeling that i am just waiting for the other shoe to drop and right now in my head- it will drop. it's like a broken record going over and over in my head.

i am not at all good with relationships... mostly because of self-confidence or fear of abandonment (part of anxiety causes for me)

plus i recently- about 4 weeks ago switched from luvox to lexapro- I don't know if that is messing with me or not...

i'm sad and going into one of my funks i can feel it. its all freaking me out. and oh how i desperately hope its all in my head.

thanks for reading

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Registered: 01-17-2001
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 10:51pm

Hi there,


Welcome to the board..


I really don't have a great answer for you but I do know that anxiety can cause us to think many things and it plays with out minds so much.


Is it maybe possible that he is just not an emotional person or maybe he has had some stress in his life? I suppose all you can do is just try to keep the communication lines open between you both.


Hopefully you will be able to see each other soon, I'm sure the distance doesn't help your feelings at all.


As far as the med change goes, I have only been on lexapro so I don't know if the change could do it or not, I would think so.


Take Care and post as you need..


take Care

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 11:49pm
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