No wonder I worry about health issues!

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Registered: 07-21-2004
No wonder I worry about health issues!
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Thu, 09-01-2005 - 12:09am
OK-Just had to share this story and wondered if anyone feels the same, or has had a similar experience...Today my mom came over for a visit with my 12yr old beautiful niece...I happened to be wearing shorts and I have a dry area of skin on my leg, it's probably a skin allergy or something, because I am extra-sensitive to detergents and stuff...But of course my mom says 'Oh you better get that checked, it could be cancer!'....Well, this probably scared my little niece, both her and I laughed nervously and I said 'Mom, it isn't cancer' but it just made me realize where I get the 'worrying about health issues being worse than they actually are'...
My mom has said things like this my whole life...And granted-it could be something wrong, but usually never is...
Good Grief! No wonder I worry! My dh always said I got some of this anxiety from my mom, so I did see that today.
But of course,the rest of the day I worried it might be cancer, and have been putting anti-biotics on the spot...If it doesn't heal I will get it checked, but geez, why do some of our moms say stuff like that! Especially in front of my niece...
If I am lucky enough to have kids one day,I will try my best not to pass this 'trait' along...
Just wondered if anyone else feels like this? Thanks for listening to my rant, gang!
Have a great day!!!
hugs, shasta
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Registered: 05-20-2004
Thu, 09-01-2005 - 9:29am

I too have recently come to realize that a lot of my worries and anxiety come from my mom. I don't believe she has anxiety but she talks a lot about the bad things that happen to people we know and people we do not. She has kept my ODD since I went back to work when she was 8 weeks old. She is now almost five and has asked me some very deep questions about things she heard my mom say. I told my mom no news when my DDs are there and make sure that if she is on the phone talking with someone about an "adult" issue that my DDs can't hear.

I too am trying very hard to not project my anxiety and worry on my DDs and hope I will be effective at this. I hope they don't sense it. My mom is practically a saint and will do anything for my sisters, my children or anyone else in need. I just don't think she understands how these issues affect young children.

I hope this is something that we can get past. I am trying, as we have to, to not let others make me more anxious. I hope you can do the same. It is hard and I have yet to be successful at it but I try everyday.

Alison

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Registered: 05-12-2003
Thu, 09-01-2005 - 10:52am

Shasta, I know exactly what you're talking about. My mom FREAKS OUT if she doesn't know where we (me, my brother, my dad) are, or if we don't answer the phone the first time she calls. Sometimes she'll literally call my cell phone 10 times in a row, and if i still don't pick up she'll call my boyfriend's cell phone. anyway i always thought this was incredibly annoying, but im realizing im more and more like her everyday. Anytime my bf is late or i dont know where he's at and he's not picking up the phone i freak out....not as badly as she does, but i imagine if i ever had kids i would probably be just as bad.


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Registered: 03-11-2004
Thu, 09-01-2005 - 11:01am
I think my anxiety is all in my genetics. Mom never contributed to it. She always poo poos my worrisome nature. That woman doesn't have a *nerve* in her body. LOL My father & his side of the family are the anxious ones, though to meet my dad, you'd never know it. I recall when we would get injured as kids, my dad would *freak* & have to be removed from the scene. That was the only time I saw his anxieties surface. He's a good actor, like many of us. (((hugs))) jan