My anxiety is through the roof!

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My anxiety is through the roof!
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Thu, 09-01-2005 - 9:42am

We are moving tomorrow and are still in the middle of packing. I have been trying to do this without taking off of work and it has taken is toll. I get home from working full-time and have to take care of the kids and pack as well. My DH has been helping but I still feel like I have been the main one trying to get everything done. I am feeling like this is impossible to achieve. Since it is hard to get things done with my DDs around they are spending the night at my mom's tonight. Hopefully that will take some of the pressure off and we can get finished up before the movers arrive tomorrow. Then I get to continue to worry that the house we are moving from is not yet sold. I guess we will be trying to take on two mortgages soon which we can only handle for a month or two.

On top of everything else my daughter started kindergarten on Monday. While she is doing great I am still getting comfortable with the idea. I still have problems at work with not enough work to do and the work that I am supposed to do depends on the support of others which I am not getting.

My husband is going on a 4 day trip to Las Vegas with his college friends next week less than a week after our move. I know I will be busy unpacking and settling in and taking care of my kids. My DHs brother is having a b-day party for his son next Saturday and I know there will still be a lot to do and think I do not have the time to go. I asked my DH since he would be out of town if we could just plan on getting together with his brother and nephew for dinner when he gets back. I do not get along with his family and the thought of spending time with them adds to my anxiety especially when DH won't be with me. He is insisting I go to the party with my DDs without him.

I really just want to find some time for relaxation or just drink myself into a stupor so I don't have to think about all of these things but I know I have to handle this. It just feels like things will not be back to "normal" for awhile and I don't know if I have the patience to wait. I have been taking 2-3 xanax a day just to be able to stay calm enough to work and pack and not take things out on my DH and DDs.

I am sorry for the long post but it kind of helps to get it out to people who understand because my DH certainly does not.

Thanks for "listening".

Alison

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Thu, 09-01-2005 - 11:11am
I don't live @ your house, Alison. Thank God for that! I just might shake things up a bit. Your dh sounds a bit on the insensitive side. You are way over stressed in this move & like all women, you'll want to get your new little nest all in order. That's absurd to think you have time for socializing. How about having your nephew & family over for a belated BD celebration when you get things settled & dh is back? Boy, would I have a list a mile long for your dh to help with the get together:) Good luck & GBU! (((hugs))) jan



 

 


 



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Thu, 09-01-2005 - 11:29am

Thanks. That was exactly my suggestion to DH that we have dinner with his brother's family when he returns from whooping it up in Las Vegas with the guys. I am soooo unreasonable ;)

Alison

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Thu, 09-01-2005 - 2:23pm

You have some major stressors on your hands. I know you will get through it all, it will just take a little time. Just remember that everything does not have to be done right this minute. Do a little at a time, and things will get done. I know exactly what it is like to not have DH's support, and it is horrible. Moving is a huge thing for so many reasons. Maybe your mom could come over and help you pack a bit? Also, as far as your husband leaving on a vacation, just think of how much you will get done with the house to yourself. Kindergarden is an emotional change, as well. Hang in there, and keep posting if you need to vent. Your daughter will flourish and so will you in your new home. Everything has a way of leveling out.

Best wishes, Jolie

ps. I asked my friend if it was "sick and wrong" that I already finished two glasses of wine and it was only 5:30pm. So I'm right there with ya!

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Thu, 09-01-2005 - 3:46pm

Thanks for your reply. Since my mom is watching the kids she will not be able to help pack but not having the kids around will make our packing easier. I know I will get through it, I just hope I don't snap before then. I may be right with you on the wine thing when 5:30 rolls around.

Alison

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Thu, 09-01-2005 - 5:26pm
Good luck. It's 4:25pm here in Chicago, and I am counting the minutes! Trust me.
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Fri, 09-02-2005 - 12:34am
Honey, it is not even your choice. You have to get a massage. Ask around, ask women in the area, or just look it up in the phonebook, but find a salon and get a massage. Take one hour to imagine that you are a queen, and then go grab drinks with your friends. But the massage, I'm not kidding, after all of this pressure, you can spend less than 100 bucks to make yourself feel amazing. No one's gonna do it for you, and you do everything for them. Believe me, get it done. They'll thank you, and more importantly, you'll thank you.
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Fri, 09-02-2005 - 8:45am

I have actually been having accupuncture and it is very relaxing once the needles are all in. They put you in a room with the lights off and you lay for half an hour with heat on your feet and listening to very soft asian music. You would think it wouldn't be good but it is very relaxing for the half hour that I am alone there.

I do love massages too though;)

Alison

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Fri, 09-02-2005 - 10:24am

Alison,


Like the other girls said,, try and take care of yourself. At least for an afternoon. I know that you have to pack but your can't make yourself sick over it.


All the things you need to get done will get done in time.


I have learned that sometimes "stuff" can wait. In my case I literally have 3 loads of laundry on my bedroom floor waiting to be put away and my kitchen is a mess.. but today I am packing up and taking the Boys swimming for the day. I will take care of the stuff later...


Treat yourself to something that you enjoy!!!


((HUGS))

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Fri, 09-02-2005 - 10:42am

I did give up packing at about 8:45pm last night and told my husband that we should get out of the house for awhile. We went to a local restaurant and had something to eat and some drinks. It felt good to relax for awhile, until I woke up this morning and realized how much work was still left. I am not going to worry about it anymore. Since our house hasn't sold yet(I will worry about that) we have time to go back and get any little things that weren't packed.

Anyway, I have a friend's wedding to look forward to on Monday. It will be nice to dress up and go enjoy myself with our friends.

Alison (trying to stay calm today).