hi im new here...

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Registered: 09-03-2005
hi im new here...
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Sat, 09-03-2005 - 8:40am

...n thought i would say hi. iv never posted on this board before but my anxiety problems have been gettin worse the last couple of weeks and i need some advice.

iv always been a very anxious person but over the last year it has seemed to have escalated hugely to a point where it feels way out of control. alot of it comes from the pressures i have at school. i passed all my exams at 16 with top grades to do the 2 year alevel courses im doin now, but iv found this first year incredibly difficult and stressful and iv only jus managed 2 scrape the minimum grades to continue my courses. i found this out a couple of weeks ago and was devastated because at first i thought id failed everything and that all the stress and headaches of the past year had been for nothing. that was enough 2 trigger my irritable bowel syndrome which i suffered with all though last year n the exams.

i think what is worrying me the most though is the fact that my boyfriend did not pass his exams and will not be there with me next year. the thought terrifies me so much and i hav barely stopped crying since i found out. he was so supportive last year, he was the main reason i was able to get up and go into school in the mornings. i feel so stupid bout cryin over starting a new school year, which iv done evry year since i was 5, that it makes me feel more scared that theres something wrong with me. i havnt left the house for the most part of a week and yesterday i spent most of the day crying and i think i may have had an anxiety attack, though im not sure as iv never had one before. i was jus sittin on the floor crying and feeling scared, when more and more terrifying thoughts just kinda flooded into my head. my chest felt tight and i started gaspin 4 breath, i stood up but felt dizzy so i sat down again and managed 2 catch my breath. it probly didnt last very long but it scared me and im starting to think theres something wrong, does this sound like an anxiety attack? or am i being paranoid?

iv never seen a doctor bout feeling like this but i don't no whether i shud. is it all in my head or is there something they could do? i was treated for ibs caused by stress a few months ago, but its never going to go away completely, though im now worried theres something else wrong and im not sure what to do. if anyone has any advice i would be really grateful, sorry i went on a bit, it probably doesn't even make sense but thanks for listening,

kat xxx

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Registered: 05-29-2003
Sat, 09-03-2005 - 10:45am

Hi Kat,

I am sorry you are having such a hard time. I, too, had terrible test and school anxiety. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate, and that you put a lot of pressure on yourself to suceed. I realize your boyfriend leaving must be very scary. Are you scared he won't be there to support you anymore? or are you scared that the relationship may end? Change is very scary, and it happens everytime a new school year starts. IT sounds like you might want to see someone about your anxiety, because it might help you find ways to prepare for all these changes. You are not alone, and it makes sense to be scared for school and your bf leaving. If your relationship is solid, it won't make a difference where he is. He will always be your support. You did the right thing by posting here, too. You will find that there are a lot of people who want to support you. You are not alone. Love, JD

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Sat, 09-03-2005 - 4:14pm

Hi, Kat! Nice to have you on board:) You are NOT alone. Those of us with anxiety have experienced

 

 


 



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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sun, 09-04-2005 - 12:48am
Welcome kat!!

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Registered: 09-03-2005
Sun, 09-04-2005 - 4:18pm

hey guys,
thanx alot for all your advice. im goin to have to go and see my doctor again about my ibs so ill definately talk to her about this anxiety. iv also decided to drop one of the four courses im doin to lessen my workload so hopefully that will help my stress levels.

Its not the fact that im worried about the relationship with my boyfriend ending because we have a realli strong relationship and i know the last thing he wants is to end it. its more fear of not being able to get through each day without him. hes been the one thats always been there to hug me and keep me going when my ibs gives me unbelievably bad stomach pains. my parents dont understand that because its school thats making me stressed so thats where i feel worse. my parents say its all in my head, it doesnt feel like it though.

i was on the bus today and i started to feel an attack like the last one coming on. the bus was packed but i started having these overwhelming feelings of being alone. my throat and chest tightened up and started to panic. i managed to slow my breathing down this time but the tightness in my chest remained for the rest of the bus journey which was about 40 minutes. it sounds realli weird even to me when i talk bout what i was feeling n it makes me feel like im going a bit crazy because it just seems such a silly thing to panic about.

maybe once i start the year these feelings will subside, it might not be as awful as im expecting it to be. thanx alot for your advice guys, its made me feel a bit betta bout evrythin. ill definately be posting again.
thanx,

kat xxx