I'm in a relationship; married, SO, e...

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I'm in a relationship; married, SO, e...
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Sun, 09-04-2005 - 11:51pm

I'm in a relationship; married, SO, etc. Here's what I do about my finances.



  • We share the bills;have "our" checking account
  • I have my own accounts; I give money to him
  • I have my own account & we have an account
  • I have no savings or funds; he supports us totally
  • I have an account which is mine and I do not withdraw money
  • We both have accounts; we split the bills by designating who pays for what


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Blessings, Suz   Posts in this Community   

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Mon, 09-05-2005 - 9:04pm

I know this a little off topic, but this question of splitting bills has been really nagging at me lately. Basically, we are living together and have established a common law marriage in the state of New York. He has a full time job and I am a full time grad student with a very very insignificant stipend from the UNiversity. When we moved in here we decided to split the bills in the half. However, as time goes by I have less and less money, because NYC is incredibly expensive, and the longer we've been living here the more I have drained my savings money. Anyway, last month I didn't have enough money to pay rent so this month I had to pay 2 months worth of rent. This basically left me dead broke, I can barely go to the grocery store now. I know we're in this 50 - 50, but I really wish that sometimes he would help me out a little :(( I know he's not rich by any standards, and his salary is just enough to be able to afford to live in Manhattan....but im falling deeper and deeper into debt -- to my parents and to the student loan people. I know he pays for a lot, like when we go out and stuff he's always the one that pays, he won't even allow me to pay for anything. He's also the one that buys stuff for the apartment...but compared to the rent, those seem like insignificant expenses, not that I dont appreciate them!


anyway, I hope im not sounding incredibly whiny, but im really in a bind with money right now and any advice would be helpful!!


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Registered: 10-03-2003
Mon, 09-05-2005 - 10:07pm
It sounds like you need to really talk to your bf/hubby about this.
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Mon, 09-05-2005 - 10:14pm

Here may be some help for you, Mia. They just began the New York City Living board & it's supposed to be good for newcomers to the city.

 

 


 



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Tue, 09-06-2005 - 12:04am
Hi Mia!

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Tue, 09-06-2005 - 10:44am

"I have no savings or funds; he supports us totally"


I am a SAHM and my dh works. We have all joint accts. and credit cards.. even both of our names are on all 3 cars.


IMO I feel that the fact that we are in a marriage makes things ours.. I could never imagine splitting bills or anything like that (of course I have no money to contribute) but even when I worked we still put everything together.


I take care of all the bills and occasionally dh will ask me how we are doing or if we have enough money to buy a certian item. Other then that he has nothing to do with it. I go out and buy what I want and buy all his clothes and household items.


That way works for us and