feeling down in the dumps!

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feeling down in the dumps!
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Sun, 09-11-2005 - 11:00am

I just found out that someone I was very close to has died in a car accident out of state. I'm sitting here crying & just can't seem to stop. I feel absolutely helpless. What a horrible feeling. I couldn't sleep last night & was browsing the obituaries for our newspaper in CT and there it was. I'm angry because nobody thought to call me (he died on the 5th of September). We dated for 2 years and my best friend had fixed us up. Like Danielle and her friend, we don't really talk anymore after a disagreement. She has always been my best friend. I called her this a.m. & got a busy signal, so I waited a few minutes and called back and her machine picked up. Of course, now I'm thinking she's avoiding me still or just doesn't care about how I feel and that's making it even worse for me. I hope she calls back. I'm sure Danielle & Jolie can relate to this! Oh, well, had to vent to someone. Dh is working all day and I'm kind of glad, but if he was here, I'd stop crying! Thanks for listening gals/guys!

Sheri Ann

Sheri Ann

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Sun, 09-11-2005 - 11:10am
I am so sorry, Sherri Ann. That was an awful way to find out about your friend. Please accept my deepest sympathy. Try to think positive about your former friend. Surely, no matter how badly the relationship ended, this isn't a time for her to be petty. By all means try again to reach her. Sometimes a tragedy like this brings ppl back together. Maybe not the way things were, but in a civil way since you've both shared this loss. Sending a prayer your way. (((hugs))) jan



 

 


 



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Sun, 09-11-2005 - 11:24am

Thank you Jan for your kind words. I'm sure she will call eventually. I never gave her my phone number when I moved, so she does have it now (although my cell phone never changed). I know I sure could use her friendship today!

Sheri Ann

Sheri Ann

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Sun, 09-11-2005 - 5:24pm

Sheriann, I am so sorry to hear about your loss, your crying is understanable, don't try to stop yourself.


i Hope things work out with your friend, Im sure she misses you the same way you miss her. I understand your fear of her avoiding your telephone call. have you considered dialing anonymously, or froma new phone number? that way she won't recognize that it's you. I know, it's so sneaky !! but if it's the best way to get in touch with her, then maybe it's worth of a try.


I hope you feel better soon !

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Sun, 09-11-2005 - 5:59pm

I'm finally feeling a little better. My friend never called back, I thought about doing what you suggested, but I figure she'll call in a day or two. If not, I'll try her again. A friend on another anxiety message board I go to lives in MA close to where the accident took place and is trying to find a newspaper story on it for me. If I knew what happened, I could probably put a little closure to this. Thank-you for your kind words.

Sheri Ann

Sheri Ann

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Sun, 09-11-2005 - 8:30pm
Sheriann I am so sorry! That was a terrible shock!
This happened to me when my neice died and I still don't
know the details it helps when we can have closure--
I try to remember the good things and times!!
God Bless you! Judy
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Sun, 09-11-2005 - 10:30pm

Thank-you Judy. I remember your sadness when your niece died. My friend did call and tell me the horrible details. He had pulled over on the side of the highway to call the police about a car that kept swerving and nearly hitting him and his fellow bike riders. He walked to the mile marker to report where they were and a car hit him traveling at over 70 mph. He was air lifted to a hospital and pronounced dead :( It saddens me so to see something like this happen to such a great guy that would do ANYTHING for ANYONE. He would literally give you the shirt off his back if you needed it.

Sheri Ann

Sheri Ann

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Sun, 09-11-2005 - 11:59pm
ohhhhhhhh that is so sad--- I am sorry!! GB, Judy
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Mon, 09-12-2005 - 9:13am

Sheri Ann,


I am so sorry to hear about that. What an awful thing..


Do you know his family? Could you give them a call and see how they are doing, it may help you to get some closure.


Take Care and email me if you need to chat...


((((HUGS))))

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Mon, 09-12-2005 - 9:36am

I was very close to the family at one time & remained friends with his sisters. I've debated calling but am afraid the timing just isn't good for them. They are such a close knit family, I can't even imagine what they are going through. I am sending them out cards today with my new address & telephone number.

Sheri Ann

Sheri Ann

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Mon, 09-12-2005 - 8:43pm
Sheri Ann,
I am so so sorry for the lost of your beloved friend. Two years is a long time to be together, and your sorrow is so understandable. That is just so sad how he passed, trying to be a good citizen, and that just makes me so sad to hear.
I hope you and your friend can reconcile, I bet that would make your friend that passed away to smile from heaven.
We Love you, please let us know if you need anything.
We will be here for you.
Sending you prayers and a BIG HUG.
love, shasta

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