So, my aunt thinks she's going to visit

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Registered: 05-27-2005
So, my aunt thinks she's going to visit
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Wed, 09-21-2005 - 12:18pm

Good morning, ladies:

It's funny that I wondered if I would go back on the Zoloft (no matter what I say, I do think about it sometimes) after Mia is born, because I just had the yuckiest crying spell thanks to what else? My family!

Get this:

My cousin e-mailed me to tell me that when my other cousin was visiting, she (the other cousin) told my aunt that my other aunt "is planning" to come up and stay with me for a few weeks to help with the baby.

Ohhhhhh really? My cousin said she wanted to tell me so that there were no surprises. Well, I am certainly surprised--and pissed off, and upset because people think they can just walk all over me, and it's OK. What the hell? First, there's the lack of trust that my husband and I know what we're doing (I don't care what anyone says--it's there, even if a little bit).

I know I am getting defensive over this, and maybe I "should" appreciate it, but you know what? My aunt never said a word to me about this. Ever.

Ironically, after reading the e-mail, Alex called to tell me not to apologize for buying things (LOL--there goes my guilt again). I cried to him on the phone, and he said he'd take care of it and call either my aunt, my uncle, or my dad. I know we shouldn't triangulate, but geez, I don't want to hear some woman tell me that oh yes, I do need help, and she's coming right up. I am used to going it alone--or actually with my dad's help--and we decided that we needed a few weeks to bond with Mia. Alex might actually get three weeks off! Do you know how cool that is?

Also, my aunt is very pushy and is old-world Italian. I don't need her pushing her views on me? On a TMI now, I also want to be able to be topless if I want to be or with messy hair if I want (I'll be breastfeeding).

On a side note, my father will be up for a weekend, and that is more than fine. I have made him my one exception. Not only did he loan Alex and me a substantial amount of money for the house, but he has been there more than anyone realizes. I am so close to him, and he fills the void that my mother does not. I express my guilt to him, too, and he just pooh-poohs it away.

So yeah, I don't know what the hell to do with this. What, am I just supposed to expect my aunt to show up at my door? And for a few weeks? I cannot handle anyone for a few weeks, I don't care how wonderful they are!

I just don't have the energy for this.

Kendra

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Registered: 05-27-2005
Wed, 09-21-2005 - 5:15pm

Thanks. I needed that. I've been slowed down all day because of this--rather, my reaction to this. My only thing is when my dad visits, she'll be offended, but whatever. He's my dad, duh.

OK, back to packing. Instead of organizing as I go, I'm shoving everything into boxes. So bad!

Kendra

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Wed, 09-21-2005 - 5:21pm
Way to go, Kendra. She ought to be able to get the point. Hopefully she'll aceept the way you & Alex have things planned. Good luck! (((hugs))) jan



 

 


 



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