Do You Ever Just Feel So Bad You Don't

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Do You Ever Just Feel So Bad You Don't
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Thu, 09-22-2005 - 1:34pm

know how to begin to feel better? I am anxious, depressed, confused about my job, having problems with my DD's school and my mind is just all over the place. I hate my job but do not have the option of leaving it right now. I don't want to be the whiny parent at my child's school but will not sit back and let them make her cry or feel uncomfortable everyday. There are so many major things going on in my life that I feel like the day to day stuff is unimportant. I am so all over the place and I just want to feel better and feel like I am beneficial to someone (my family, work, etc.). I am sure I am making no sense by now and am leaving my office to go to DDs school to bring cookies to her class for her birthday. Hope everyone is doing better than I am today. At least, if I know it can happen for others, there is still hope for me.

Alison

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Thu, 09-22-2005 - 2:57pm



THE SERENITY PRAYER


God, grant me the
SERENITY
to accept the things
I cannot change

COURAGE
to change the
things I can

and
WISDOM
to know the difference



 

 


 



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Thu, 09-22-2005 - 3:42pm

Thanks. That is some of the best advice I've ever gotten. Although, I've gotten it many times and don't always remember. I am feeling better after visiting my daughter's school. Her teacher says she is one of the most polite and helpful students she has. She seemed surprised that she says Thank You, Excuse Me, and Please regularly. I guess some of our hard work has paid off. I really hate it when I lose perspective and appreciate it when I can come to the board and get responses that help with that.

Thanks again.

Feeling Better.

Alison

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Thu, 09-22-2005 - 3:53pm

Alison, Im glad you're feeling better :)


I think we've all had those times when we just didn't know where to start and how to take care of ourselves. Please try to stay positive, I know things will work out eventually.


Mia

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Thu, 09-22-2005 - 3:59pm

Thanks. I think I am going back and forth too much lately. Anxiety and energetic then just numb and depressed. I am not sure which is worse. My DDs are what make me the happiest. I know this may sound bad but, my DH works nights once a week and I usually take my DDs to dinner with my mom. Then we go home and they watch Aladdin or The Little Mermaid, whichever is their favorite movie this week while we all lay in bed. I usually read. We have a king bed but the girls always end up falling asleep as close to me as possible and it is the most fabulous feeling in the world. I guess my DH would rather it be him falling asleep close to me and making me feel that fabulous feeling and he does sometimes. There is just something about having kids and feeling close to them that makes it all worthwhile.

Boy am I up and down today. I will enjoy the happiness while it lasts.

Thanks again.

Alison

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Thu, 09-22-2005 - 4:19pm
It's called being *overwhelmed.* Even without an anxiety diagnosis, it happens all too often to working moms who try to do too much. I have to break all my goals, tasks, even my life into small bites or I would be in your shoes. I use that prayer as a reminder to myself. I actually had copied & pasted this little note to the prayer, but I must have messed up & it was jettisoned into cyberspace or some dang thing. Sorry, Alison. I didn't mean to send just the prayer. Gee, that was so simple, maybe I'll reply to everyone that way. LOL Good luck! (((hugs))) jan



 

 


 



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Thu, 09-22-2005 - 5:16pm
Hi Alison I know how that feels there is so much
on your mind you can't concentrate on any one thing!
When I am having mind racing thoughts I know I need
to find some peace either taking a nap, doing something
physical or listening to calming music.
I wonder if you wrote down the two big problems and
then brainstorm with someone possible solutions.
If one of the problems is unsolvable like your job
you just have to let it go! Do not dwell on it
but perhaps there are some ways to make it better??
As far as school goes you need to speak with your daughters
teacher if this does not help then go to the principal or
guidance or social worker for your dauthers school!
Being a retired teacher I suggest the teacher first!
I hope somehow this helps you- come to chat tonight maybe
we all can work through this with you! Take care, Judy
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Registered: 09-16-2005
Thu, 09-22-2005 - 8:04pm

Alison I think maybe we all feel the way you are at some time in our lives. The one thing I've learned about life is you don't stay down forever, the good times are just around the corner. Hang in there and know there are people sending good vibes your way.

Keitha

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Fri, 09-23-2005 - 8:18am

Thanks everyone. Feeling better today. I do need more downtime (a nap sounds divine but out of my reach with two little ones and full-time work). I think I will concentrate my efforts on a getaway, by myself or with girlfriends. My husband goes to Las Vegas each year with college friends for a long weekend and I think I will find a place and start my own tradition hopefully with a few close friends. I think that is a goal I can work towards and achieve. Maybe completing such a task will help me in more ways than one.

Thanks again to everyone. You guys are always so supportive.

Alison.