Oh honey I'm so sorry that he did that to you. Men can be such............. sometimes. I don't blame you for reacting the way you did. The contract is there for a reason and he broke it. That is not fair nor is it right and his reasoning is totally childish. You didn't put your finances in danger so I don't see what the big deal is. I don't understand people who do that to their spouses. It's so 1950 to me.
I new to the board..so I hope you don't mind me jumping in here.
I just wanted to send you hugs, and to let you know that I agree that counseling sounds like it would be a wonderful start.
At least he did appologize...... men are so dense sometimes, they don't realize the good.until the bad comes in.......I wish you all the best with this!!
I'm sorry to hear dh didn't keep your date. Marriage troubles are the worse! My anxiety goes through the roof when dh breaks a date with me. No matter what his reason, it's very upsetting for me. I don't think men realize we look forward to it, plan on it and get so disappointed when we are let down :( Marriage counseling is a great idea. My dh would never go to counseling, so I hope we never need it! Is your dh willing to go? The contract sounds like such a great idea, but if he isn't keeping up his half of the contract, it does render it useless!
So sorry to hear you are frustrated. I totally understand your dissapointment. I, too, have simular marriage problems, and they can be very hurtful.
You have every right to feel the way you do. There aren't many people you should expect things from, but your husband is one person you should be able to count on. Maybe a contract isn't enough. Maybe you can get into some counseling? My pdoc told me afew times that a great way to communicate is to write each other letters. This way, no one is interrupting, and everyone gets to be heard. Right now you are very mad, but in time, when you feel better, you might want to try it. You don't even have to give it to him. It just might make you feel better to get your feelings out on paper. I hope things work out for you.
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Oh honey I'm so sorry that he did that to you. Men can be such............. sometimes. I don't blame you for reacting the way you did. The contract is there for a reason and he broke it. That is not fair nor is it right and his reasoning is totally childish. You didn't put your finances in danger so I don't see what the big deal is. I don't understand people who do that to their spouses. It's so 1950 to me.
Many hugs to you. I hope things get better.
Hugs & Prayers,
Danielle
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Hugs & Positive Thoughts Always,
I'm glad that you are trying to come up with solutions to help your marriage. That is all that you can do. I hope you'll keep us posted.
Many hugs coming your way Yavonne
Hugs & Prayers,
Danielle
Hysterectomy & Alternatives
Host of Tuesday Night Anxiety, Panic & Phobia's Chat 7 - 9 pm MST
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Hi,
I new to the board..so I hope you don't mind me jumping in here.
I just wanted to send you hugs, and to let you know that I agree that counseling sounds like it would be a wonderful start.
At least he did appologize...... men are so dense sometimes, they don't realize the good.until the bad comes in.......I wish you all the best with this!!
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I'm sorry to hear dh didn't keep your date. Marriage troubles are the worse! My anxiety goes through the roof when dh breaks a date with me. No matter what his reason, it's very upsetting for me. I don't think men realize we look forward to it, plan on it and get so disappointed when we are let down :( Marriage counseling is a great idea. My dh would never go to counseling, so I hope we never need it! Is your dh willing to go? The contract sounds like such a great idea, but if he isn't keeping up his half of the contract, it does render it useless!
Sheri Ann
Sheri Ann
Hi Yavonne,
So sorry to hear you are frustrated. I totally understand your dissapointment. I, too, have simular marriage problems, and they can be very hurtful.
You have every right to feel the way you do. There aren't many people you should expect things from, but your husband is one person you should be able to count on. Maybe a contract isn't enough. Maybe you can get into some counseling? My pdoc told me afew times that a great way to communicate is to write each other letters. This way, no one is interrupting, and everyone gets to be heard. Right now you are very mad, but in time, when you feel better, you might want to try it. You don't even have to give it to him. It just might make you feel better to get your feelings out on paper. I hope things work out for you.
Lots of love, JD
Thanks for your response.
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