Newbie--- just an introduction

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Registered: 09-16-2005
Newbie--- just an introduction
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Sun, 09-25-2005 - 3:16pm

I just want to introduce myself. I am a 31 (fixing to be 32, next month) married female. We have one 10 year old DD (fixing to be 11 next month, three days before me). We lost one DD 8 years ago to SIDS, when she was 10.5 weeks old.

I have been dealing with agoraphobia, depression,and panic attacks for over 8 years. I am also "morbidly obese" (I hate the phrase).

My DH does not believe that people can have these things wrong with them. He believes that people that complain of these things, either want attention, or want to get out of doing something.

I have been trying for almost three years to get on disability. I had a court date last month. I heard back from the judge a few days ago. He basicaly stated that he believed that I had these problems, but there was not enough medical proof for him to award me the disability.

I just don't know what to do now........ I can't physically get to the drs to get the help I need. I don't have insurance, so I am limited to where I can go. The last place I went to the councilor actually told me to "suck it up and get on with my life"...........how am I suppposed to get the help (not to mention the medical proof the jude wants) when I get treated like and idiot!!

Ok, well that is my story in a brief synopsis. I really want to get into a group that I can vent and just let all my worries out. I can't talk to my Dh (he rolls his eyes)/ I can't talk to any RL friends, they get tired of hearing it. And most of the time I just don't know why I'm feeling like I do............ I just need help..............

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Sun, 09-25-2005 - 7:54pm

 

 


 



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Sun, 09-25-2005 - 8:19pm

First let me tell you this is a wonderful board to be part of these ladies are great. I attended my first chat this past Thursday and plan on being there this Tues. They show a concern only someone that is there or been there can show..

I'm in the process of trying to get my disability also. I have the same problem you do not enough paper work behind me, they don't seem to care you haven't the finances to seek the medicial help you need. Not to be nosey but does you family meet the criteria for a free or sliding scale clinic? Thanks to the free clinic in my small town I'm now able to get the help I need. I figure if I'm turned down again I'll reapply with hopefully enough paper work to succeed.....If first you do not succeed try try again.

Keitha

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Mon, 09-26-2005 - 12:11am

Ladies,
Thank you both!!

I will check out the links you talked about. As soon as I get a chance. Thanks....

Yes I can get help with my local mental health clinic......... that is where I went with the councilor told me to suck it up.............I plan on getting my DH to help me get another therapist, hopefully. I can get the appointments.......it's just keeping them that I have trouble with... I have a hard time making myself go to the appointment........the health center in this small town in AL just don't understand, I guess............

Thank you ladies very much..I look forward to getting to know you!!!

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Mon, 09-26-2005 - 8:12am

Hello,

I am relatively new to this board too! Hope you stick around and join in the posts, there is also a chat on Tues & Thurs nights.

I understand what you are going through with the RL friends. I get the eye rolls and misunderstanding from people in my life too. They just wish I would "get a grip on myself". Well if I could...I would!

Everyone here is very supportive and understanding :-)

Lisa

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Mon, 09-26-2005 - 8:31pm

Sorry to hear your counselour was so uncaring. It's sometimes very hard to make appointments but just remember this is for your own sanity and you deserve the proper treatment for your condition. Keep trying and I'm sure you'll find the help you need.

Stick around here for awhile these ladies have been a great inspiration to me, without them I probably wouldn't have gotten the help I needed.

Keitha

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Tue, 09-27-2005 - 10:05am

You definitely came to the right place. The people on this board are some of the most caring I have ever "met". To say that you have been through something difficult is putting it mildly. Even when there is not a traumatic event to trigger this ugly disease, you can't just usually "snap out of it". I wish I could remember the name of the book but I checked out a book for my DH regarding living with someone with depression. They should be able to help find it at the library. If your DH is willing, maybe he will get some insight.

Stick around, this is a helpful place to be.

Alison

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Tue, 09-27-2005 - 8:04pm
All of us here understand exactly what you are going through. Many of us have been there, myself included. I wish you all the best in your struggle. Small steps is what got me this far and I still have farther to go. Sometimes I feel like my progress is sooo slow, then I remember being afraid shower, to get my mail, to step off my porch into my yard & I realize all the small steps have gotten me to where I am today. While I still can't work or drive a car by myself, I know those, too, will come with time & alot more small steps! Patience is something I am certainly learning! Please come back, keep us posted & share away. We have chat tonight at 9 pm est & hope you can stop by! I read your post about your upcoming hospitalization and wish you well. The staff there will have more experience with what you are going through than the therapist you saw. How awful he/she was to you! Your problems are real and you are a real person. You deserve respect from anyone that treats you, as well as understanding & empathy. God Bless!
Hugs,
Sheri Ann

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Wed, 09-28-2005 - 11:52pm

I'm a little late with this, but WELCOME!

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