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| Fri, 09-30-2005 - 8:58am |
Good morning everyone,
I am feeling so nervous and anxious today. I know I am due for my period, which always makes the anxiety worse. I think the trigger was that a a friend of mine made a playdate, and I feel excluded. I always feel like it is me calling and making the plans for my son. Again, I try not to project my insecurities onto my son, because, A- it's not his problem (ever), and B- I need to get over my own insecurities and realize that I am a 35 year old mother of two who needs to just live her life and not worry about everyone else. My son seems very happy, and I think I make it worse in my head.
I just feel so lousy inside, and I want him to feel included and have good friends. I think he does? He loves preschool and he seems to be thriving. I know, I am talking myself into something that is not there. I am just always (as usual) so worried about if I fit in. I think that might be the issue.
Thank you for reading. I appreciate the time.
Love, JD

Do you think your son realizes whether he has a playdate or not? I'm curious, because my son, who is 4 y.o. wouldn't notice the difference. When he went to preschool I considered that to be his play time & never had any playdates for him. I wanted to spend the at home time with him since he had been at daycare, make sense? Now, I have my grandsons over once a week, or even less often. He's happy when they come over and he has "friends" to play with, but he doesn't ask for them to come over and he doesn't wait for them to come over. He's just happy to be home and not in daycare, lol. I don't know how anyone has time to schedule things like playdates. After working and picking him up from daycare, the last thing I wanted to do is bring him to play some more. To me, that was family time for us. Maybe you should join a moms group & get together with other moms so you have some social interaction & meet other people like you?
Sheri Ann
Sheri Ann
Hi,
Yes, my son does ask for playdates and yes, he does notice when other kids are getting picked up and playing. My 5 year old son is very active and loves to be busy. It's not as if I am trying to ship him off, but I do want him to feel included. I love that I am able to stay home with him and spend time with him. I am blessed to stay home. I get tons of quality time with him. It's also nice, though, for him to experience other people and other surroundings. Like I said in my email, I think part of it is my own insecurities playing a part as well. I often feel excluded and left out.
JD
I think as parents especially those of us with anxiety issues it is always a worry that we are projecting our feelings onto our children. I fight that a lot too. If I could follow my DDs around all day especially at school and make sure that everything was okay for them I would. I guess we just need to find a middle ground and try to make sure that we take advantage of the opportunities that do arise for our children.
I guess, just another one of my you're not alone responses.
Alison