Feeling down but going to change

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Registered: 07-08-2005
Feeling down but going to change
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Mon, 10-03-2005 - 3:18pm

Hi- i posted earlier about my son having some problems in school and changes in behavior. He is in 9th grade. Now I really feel bad about letting my anxiety and depression affect my parenting- letting him down. Wallowing in my own self pity. but i want to change my behavior to help him- lately I have been yelling alot and end up going to bed early and not deal. He is a good kid- going through some tough times-

Elaine

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Registered: 01-17-2001
Mon, 10-03-2005 - 9:24pm

Elaine,


You are a great mother. Don't put yourself down... i think that we are so much harder on ourselves then we need to be.


Take Care and I hope that you are feeling better!


{{{HUGS}}}

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Registered: 04-07-2003
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 1:31am
Elaine take care of yourself!!
Your son will be fine- tell him you love him
and this has nothing to do with him!!
Are you having panic attacks? or what?
I hope you feel better soon! Let us know please!
I will pray for you- Judy
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Registered: 04-18-2003
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 8:39am

Elaine, sometimes going to bed and not dealing is better than staying up and fighting. I am an expert on son troubles, lol. I used to go soak in a hot bath when he had more problems than I could handle. Then we would fight because he felt I was always in the bath tub, go figure! You need to feel better yourself so you will be able to help him better. I think getting extra rest is a good thing. Starting high school is such a major change for children and their parents. Take care of yourself & like Judy said, let him know you love him and that you are there for him if he needs your help.

Sheri Ann

Sheri Ann

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Registered: 07-08-2005
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 2:55pm
Thanks Heather-
you are right about us being hard on ourselves-
i hope that you are feeling well today and having a good day
thanks again for the kind words
elaine
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Registered: 07-08-2005
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 3:00pm
thanks. judy
you are right - thank you for the prayers
i am filled with anxiety now but haven't had a panic attack
i hope you are doing well and having a good day
elaine
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Registered: 07-08-2005
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 3:03pm
thanks sheri ann for the words of wisdom
you were right about high school- it's difficult when you see your kids making the wrong choices- he is still my baby
hope you are having a good day
elaine