My husband and his panic attack..HELP!!

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Registered: 02-02-2005
My husband and his panic attack..HELP!!
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Fri, 10-14-2005 - 12:00pm

Hi ladies...I've been a member of the September

 
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-17-2001
Fri, 10-14-2005 - 12:22pm

Hi Cindy,


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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-11-2004
Fri, 10-14-2005 - 12:43pm

Hi & welcome to our community. We are glad you found us. Please feel free to post anytime with questions or concerns & read the articles in the *what's new on health* folder @ the bottom of this page. There's alot of info on anxiety.


I am very sorry for your loss.

 

 


 



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Registered: 04-18-2003
Fri, 10-14-2005 - 4:32pm

Welcome Cindy. First I'd like to say I, too, am sorry for your loss. I think it is wonderful that you are looking for ways to help your dh through this difficult time. Read through the back posts, if you haven't already, I am sure you will find some gret info. This group has been wonderful for me. If you dh doesn't want to come to chat, you are welcome to stop by. Other wives have come by for the same problem. I am sure we can help you shed some light on all of this.

GBU,

Sheri Ann

Sheri Ann

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-12-2003
Fri, 10-14-2005 - 5:17pm

Cindy,


im sorry for your loss. the only advice i can give you for helping your husband is to remain patient and supportive of him. Every person deals with loss differently, and since your dh was already prone to panic attacks, this is his way of dealing. Also, i think it would be helpful if you read up on panic and anxiety disorders, to familiarize yourself with their biological and psychological roots. the more people know about panic disorders the less likely they are to judge. encourage him to stay on his medication and a course of treatment, and see a psychologist to teach him coping techniques.


good luck to you both, things really do get better and life with panic attacks is possible.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-27-2005
Sat, 10-15-2005 - 7:30pm

My condolescences on your loss. Perhaps your husband would gain some insight into his panic attacks by consulting a psychologist. Medication can control the symptoms, but therapy digs deep into the core of why we feel this way and what we can do about it. You might also benefit from speaking with a third party about what you are feeling.

I am glad you posted. Please know we are here to help and support one another. The one thing that came to mind to help (at least temporarily) your husband would be deep breathing and just remaining present in the moment. You might find some other good hints elsewhere on iVillage. Most importantly, IMHO, you two should consult with someone, because you have been through a tragic loss.

I wish you the very best, Cindy, and I hope you'll return to the board when you can.

Kendra

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-02-2003
Sat, 10-15-2005 - 10:09pm
Hi Cindy and welcome to our community. I too am very sorry for your loss. Its great that your husband has someone like you who wants to help and understand. I too like Jan do not want to be alone nor do I want anyone to touch me, if they are close enough to touch me, they are in my space. I read where someone spoke of meds just covering up the symptoms. This is very true, but sometimes you need the meds to reach a point, where you are ready and able to talk to a psychologist. Its just plan and simple, sometimes we need help. It will take a few weeks for the zoloft to kick in. What you need to know is right now your husband is afraid, "fear" it is very powerful and plays a very big role in this disorder. He assosiates where he was when he had an attack to the attack. Like that same place or event will make it happen again. Anticapatory anxiety. He is lucky to have someone like you in his corner. Keep us up to date and please feel free to post anytime. Were not professionals but we have all definately been there. Bye for now, Debbie

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-02-2005
Mon, 10-17-2005 - 6:47pm

Hi....firts of all I have to say THAnk you!!!!!I read all the posts and it helped me a lot!!!