Would like some advice...

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Would like some advice...
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Mon, 10-17-2005 - 7:21pm

When my anxiety hit I was waitressing at a Seafood restaraunt thurs and fri night only. I LOVED it but dh kept telling me to quit because we didn't need the money and he missed me..


anyway, I ran into an old friend from there and we talked and she also has anxiety (not severe but she is on medication) and she now works lunch shifts. She suggested that I come back to work and work one lunch a week... get me out of the house and back to work somewhat. I have been considering it..


Then today a girl from Church called and asked if I'd watch her kids from 8:30 am to 2:30pm... not bad hours. And she'd pay pretty good for that. They are 8 months and 3. Obviously I can handle babies, I have twins. I would LOVE the money and I think that anxiety wise it would keep me busy and I could save the money. i am just not sure what to do.


If I go back to waitressing one day a week, I'd make maybe $35 working lunch but it would be low stress... If I watch the Girls I am with my Boys and

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Mon, 10-17-2005 - 7:51pm
How much would you make babysitting??? LOL??
how many days a week?
thinking of myself when I wasn't teaching and
was at home with our kids I babysat to keep busy LOL!
I loved it!! and my kids were very happy too---
we did special fun stuff like in a nursery school--
which I am SURE YOU WILL GO ALSO!!
Heather you have MORE ENERGY THAN 5 people LOL!!
hugsssss Judy
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Mon, 10-17-2005 - 8:21pm

Hi Heather,

Just adding my 2Cents:

Which situation is more likely to contribute to your anxiety/stress? Additional children in your home also means more work, more noise, more germies, more mess, etc. The waitress job could mean missing your kids, daycare issues, waiting on onry people.

Good points for home daycare: your kids will learn social skills, $money$, interaction with others, reason to get up in the morning and get dressed, no need to find daycare for your own kids, and a sense of self worth.

Good points for waitress: getting out of the house, $money$, adult conversation, getting reaquainted with the world, meeting interesting people.

Both situations could be benefitial but the bottom line for me would be which one would be easier to handle. Would you be babysitting every day?? When I babysit my sisters kids I go nuts.((LOL)) I love them soo much but too many days would test my stress limits.

Hope I have helped and not made it seem more overwhelming :-)

Keep us posted,
Lisa

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Mon, 10-17-2005 - 9:37pm

Hi Heather, of course this is my opinion. Not worth much to alot of people. I think anytime you can stay home with your kids, its the best. I watched kids and ran my own prechool for several years and I found that the more kids the better because they entertain one another. Extra money always helps out and if

 

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Mon, 10-17-2005 - 10:17pm

Ok, so we're all in agreement.


She'll pay me 150 a week and its 6 hours a day. We also have another church friend and right now she and her dh are unemployed and one of them is going to be a SAHM or SAHD so I will have a back up person for when I go to appts. and stuff.


I prayed about it tonight and hopefully tomorrow I will have more of an insight as to what to do, but I am pretty sure that if for no other reason then for my Church friend to know that her children are safe that I will do it.


I will let you all know whats going on.. thanks for the advice.


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Mon, 10-17-2005 - 10:50pm
Heather, I think they both sound like good opportunities. Im assuming the babysitting job would be daily? that would probably add up to more money in the long run than waitressing once a week. On the other hand, I am always inclined to go for the more challenging of the two options...waitressing again can really challenge your anxiety, which could be great for your recover (and you're already doing so well!). Ultimately, I think you need to decide what's best for you in the long run. I know waitressing can be a physically demanding job, with a high burn out rate. I know this isn't good advice :) Im torn between your two options lol, but I know whatever decision you make in the end will be a good one for you and your family.

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Tue, 10-18-2005 - 12:18am
I know the Lord will guide you to the right decision, Heather. I always HAD to work when my kids were little. I wish so much that I could've been home with them. I missed out on alot. However, there's something to be said for YOU getting out of the house, especially if you experience anxiety when away from home. Also, there's the need for you to get a bit of adult
 

 


 



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Tue, 10-18-2005 - 5:04pm

Well, its Tues-Fri and she will pay me $160 hours 8:30-2:30.. not a bad deal. She and I are going to talk later on tonight or tomorrow.


So I will still have my Mondays off to do things with the Boys-- that would be my day to go and see my Grandma.