One of my Dearest Friends is Dying......

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One of my Dearest Friends is Dying......
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Wed, 10-19-2005 - 3:04pm

That is part of why I was not at chat last night. I'm emotionally exhausted.


This lady I met online just over 5yrs ago. There are a group of us, now 13, that have been communicating online, we have Christmas exchanges, We send cards, talk on the phone etc. We just as good of friends as if you met someone face to face and stayed friends. I'd trust my kids with any one of these ladies.


Last week of them fell ill and we're not sure, the dr's aren't sure, what is going on with her. All we know is that she kept on seizing so they put her into a drug induced coma for the safety of her brain. Everytime they try to bring her out for an MRI she begins to seize. She has developed a lung infection although with other minor infections that are all under control but still they are there.


I'm terrified. I feel so helpless right now. Of the 13 ladies this is probably one of my favorites. She & I are so alike in so many different ways. I can't imagine the world without her.


Dh & I have discussed and decided that if she does pass I am going. I can't afford to fly on short notice so I will drive. I pray that, that never comes to pass. I pray I never have to visit her, meet her for the first time at her own funeral. It kills me to write these words, It kills me to even think them. Like I said emotionally I'm a mess as are the rest of the ladies in the circle.


This lady is one of the strongest women I know and so I know that she is fighting with everything she has to come back to us and we are praying with everything we have to get her back to us. If you wouldn't mind I'd appreciate if you could say a small prayer for her, she needs them. It's been an uphill battle and I feel so horrible for her boyfriend. I spoke with him and he is the nicest man. They have been together for a very long time, just never got married. He will be the one to make decisions if need be.


For me, For my circle of friends, and most importantly for my friend please say a small prayer. We can't lose her.


Hugs & Prayers,



Danielle


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Wed, 10-19-2005 - 4:12pm

(((Danielle))) I am so sorry to hear this. That is a very real tragedy for all concerned. I hope you can find some peace with whatever develops. Keeping you in my T&P's that there'll be a positive outcome. (((hugs))) jan

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Wed, 10-19-2005 - 4:29pm

((Danielle)) I'm so sorry to hear this. Online friends are just as real as the friends we meet on the street, although those that don't go online might not understand! You have been through soooo much lately. I will say many prayers for your friend & hope that she pulls through this. You are in my thoughts & prayers.
Hugs,

Sheri Ann

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Wed, 10-19-2005 - 4:32pm

You and your friend are in my thoughts.

Alison

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Wed, 10-19-2005 - 5:15pm

Danielle, friends are such special people. I'm sending prayers to your friend and to you.

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Wed, 10-19-2005 - 5:18pm

Thank you Jan, Alison & Sheri Ann.


You're so right Sheri Ann, Those that don't have these types of relationships just don't understand. This woman is a sister to me. We're all gathering trying to make the best of a very ugly situation and I don't think we're doing a good job. I think the best that can be said is that we're mildly distracting one another and even then.......... I find the smallest things can set me off and so thinking has become a very hard thing. My heart is just breaking


Hugs & Prayers,



Danielle

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Wed, 10-19-2005 - 6:29pm
Thank You Keitha, I greatly appreciate it


Hugs & Prayers,



Danielle

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Wed, 10-19-2005 - 6:29pm
Im so sorry Danielle. My thoughts are with you and your friend in these tough times.

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Wed, 10-19-2005 - 7:07pm

Danielle,


I am so sorry to hear that.


I agree with Sheri Ann, i think that we are just as good of friends as we would be face to face.


I am so sorry that you are going through this.... are you in touch with her family?


I am sending prayers your way and to your friend...


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Wed, 10-19-2005 - 7:12pm

Thank you Mia & Heather.


I am in touch w/ her BF. He either emails or one of us from the group talks with him daily to see how she is doing. So far nothing today, I hope there will be an update soon. In this case I don't think no news is good news.


Thank you all so much for being here for me and being so supportive. I just couldn't keep it in anymore. I'm tired of fighting with

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Wed, 10-19-2005 - 10:32pm
Oh Danielle,
I am so sorry to hear about your dear friend. I know exactly how you feel about being close to our on-line friends. It makes no difference that the friendship began on-line.
I am closer with some people here on the board, then with some of my friends that live in my same town. I treasure my friends, and my heart goes out to you, I hope your friend gets well soon. I will be sending you & your dear friend, LOTS of prayers & thoughts.
Bless you.
love,
shasta

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