Anxiety today

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Registered: 09-16-2005
Anxiety today
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Sat, 10-22-2005 - 11:59am

Today is my partner Mels Birthday. You would think this would be one of my better days. I suppose it would be but this is also the anniversary that her family had our house in Indiana burnt. I'm on pins and needles wondering just what they may have in store for us this year. I hate this feeling. I hate the fact I've allowed someone else to be able to control my feelings and anxiety. I'm just praying that this is all in my mind and the day will pass with no incident. Thanks for listening I just needed to get this out and not hold it all in, I have a big problem with holding thoughts and feelings inside.

Keitha

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In reply to: kywomyn
Sat, 10-22-2005 - 12:16pm

It's good that you were able to let it off your chest, Keitha. We all can relate to holding our feelings in too much & for too long. Allow yourself a short pre-set time to worry about this issue, then keep your mind & body occupied. This is difficult to do, but with practice you will get better @ it.


I am certain that I would be fearful, too. You know we all need a little fear to keep us alert, which in turn keeps us safe. I have a hard time keeping things in perspective. Keeping it real in my head & not blowing things out of proportion. I like to limit myself on these issues, too. Oh, how I hate those around me who remind me that my anxiety has crossed the line. I have confidence that you can learn to set limits on your fears as well!


Tell Mel I said to have a happy birthday:) I hope you both can celebrate & have a good time in spite of things. Good luck & GBU! (((hugs))) jan

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Registered: 05-27-2005
In reply to: kywomyn
Sat, 10-22-2005 - 12:43pm

Oh my gosh ... I am so sorry to hear about this, Keitha. Try and take it easy today, and don't assume that anything bad is going to happen, OK? That is called catastrophizing (I'm quite good at it, so I should know--LOL). Please try and make the most of today. How is the weather there? Maybe you two could go for a nice walk or fix a nice dinner? I just don't want you to waste your day feeling so miserable about the past. Today is a better day than back then, right? See if you can take a few deep breaths, focus, and be in the moment. Perhaps Mel could sit with you and help with this.

Let us know how you're doing throughout the weekend if you have time, OK? We do care.

I also want to say that I know how it feels to get lost in events of the past--though what you've described has not happened to me. It's hard, but if you can just pull yourself back into the here and now, life is so much easier, and you will be so much happier.

Many hugs to ya,

Kendra

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Registered: 04-07-2003
In reply to: kywomyn
Sat, 10-22-2005 - 9:47pm
Keitha HUGS!! I would worry also!! It is hard to
stay in the moment but you know what you need to do!
I pray that Mel's family will stay cool!!
Happy Birthday Mel! Anniversaries of traumatic events
are difficult! Stay busy and try to get into enjoying
the day and night as much as you can. I will be thinking
of you and hoping you have some Peace! GBU Judy
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Registered: 09-16-2005
In reply to: kywomyn
Sun, 10-23-2005 - 10:14am

You ladies are all so wonderful and offered me some great suggestions and advice. Our day did end up to be a good one, though we spent most of it away from the house and when we were home we keep the cp up and running, if I had to hear bad news I didn't want it to be yesterday LOL. Feeling much better today and more positive that maybe it was just unnecessity fear I had created for myself. Just knowing I had people that cared and were there to stand beside me helped me to get through what was a rough day for me.

Keitha

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Registered: 07-21-2004
In reply to: kywomyn
Tue, 10-25-2005 - 2:26am
Aww, Keitha-I wished you would have told me that this was bothering you, in your bday email to me Saturday! I would have chatted with you! <3
That is so horrible that that happened to you guys. I am so glad you got out safely.
Thanx also for sharing, I know how hard it is to open up and share painful things.
And I now know your day turned out pretty good, for Mel's Bday!
That is SO great!
Hopefully you are getting my emails to you, I have sent a couple, but didn't hear back, so wasn't sure if my computer is really working right (Actually I think it is my ISP that is the problem) :(
I hope to hear from you very soon, and that you have a wonderful day.
love,
shasta
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Registered: 07-13-2003
In reply to: kywomyn
Tue, 10-25-2005 - 9:09am

Keitha,

Glad to hear Mel's birthday went well and that you are feeling better! Sending you both a big hug (((***))).

Lisa

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In reply to: kywomyn
Tue, 10-25-2005 - 9:16am

Kethia,


I am chiming in a bit late here.. just wanted to tell you that I do that all the time, worry about things that I don't even know are going