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| Mon, 10-24-2005 - 12:13am |
Emptiness Becomes Openness
Sometimes A Loss Can Be A Gain
When we lose anything that we cherish, the sense of emptiness we are left behind with can be overwhelming. A space that was filled, whether in our lives or our hearts, is now a void, and the feelings of pain, loss, and separation can sometimes be difficult to bear. While it is always important to honor what we've lost, sometimes a loss can also represent a chance for a new beginning. When we are ready, the void left by a relationship, a job, or a dream can then be viewed as open space that can be filled with something new: new experiences, new knowledge, new job opportunities, new dreams, new people, and new ways to grow.
There are many ways to weave the threads of loss into a blessing. If you've lost a job or ended a relationship, your first thoughts may revolve around filling the void with a similar job or the same kind of relationship. Try not to rush into anything just to fill up the emptiness. The loss of a job can free you up to explore new opportunities, especially if you've outgrown the old one. Likewise, the loss of a relationship can give you a chance to rediscover your own interests, explore new passions, and meet different people.
If seeking the good in what seems like a bad situation makes you feel uncomfortable, then try to remember that you are not devaluing what you've lost or replacing it cold-heartedly. You are surrendering to the fact that, in life, we sometimes have to let go and allow for what is new to enter into the open spaces created by our losses. In doing so, you are honoring what has left you and welcoming the new into your life with open space, an open mind, and an open heart.
The Daily Om


What a wonderful way to start my day today, ty Janis for posting this... today is a start of a new day for me in more ways than one.
I've talked to some of you about the fact that I lost my husband very suddenly and without warning 18 months ago. Well this past weekend I went out with an old friend ( we dated in high school), I'm in the process of selling my home and starting new in a place that is mine.... memories go with me in my heart and mind, and today I start a new job! It's part time but all I need for now and will allow me to have an income but even more than that it has the wonderful thoughts of getting me out of the house and a chance to interact with others.
When I read your post this morning it was like you knew all this and had posted it for me. I hope this week is a kind one to all.... Bless us in what ever we do this week !!
Sheryl
I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your dh. Our co-cl, Suz, has just experienced her dh's loss. When I posted the thoughts, I was thinking of all on the board who have been through deaths, loss of jobs, financial security,