Wilma

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Registered: 04-07-2003
Wilma
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Tue, 10-25-2005 - 12:56am
Hi all I need to see what you all think!
Before the hurricane season even started I
told a few people WIlma will be really bad!
I don't know why I did this except that maybe since
it was the last name on the list I would not worry
about the others just that one??? Maybe tricking myself
a bit!! LOL
Anyway I do live on the EAST COAST OF FLORIDA!
When the name appear I started right away worrying
and wanting to leave! I kept quiet until the storm
was on its way from mexico--- hubby refused to leave
since they kept changing the impact etc!
Saturday I could not focus on anything I tried so hard
to relax and do things to get my mind off of it--
I went to an art show my daughter was selling her jewelry
she makes! It was so awful hot and humid it was just
so nasty!! I did not go to bed until 4am! I simply could not
sleep!! Through all this time my hubby is trying to pacify me
by saying oh it is not going to be that bad! Oh don't worry so!
You should try to relax ( my personal favorite- like if I could
I WOULD) this one is pretty funny too- why don't you take a nap!!
Yea right!! Or how about there is nothing to worry about!
My daughter one of them said to me- we are surrounded by water
think about it Mom how can we have a flood the water will just
go into the river!!! NOW I TELL YOU IS THAT FOR REAL????
Sunday I was determined to not let this get me!!
Went to the movies when we got home the tornado warnings
were coming like mad!! I was pacing and pacing, trying to
watch some TV- no way- walking around the house picking
things up and cleaning was about all I could do!!
A tornado tore up a shopping area I love!! I was
watching the weather channel and heard about it-
I called my daughter to tell her about it she said
no MOM there was not one!! the other stations did not
talk about it for some time later!! I was angry and hurt
that she would not take the time to comfort me in some way!!
or even BELIEVE ME!!! how about that one???
My hubby was long asleep at this point! So I listened and
watched--- and worried! I did not have a panic attack but
was totally scared! After the tornado I went to sleep
I took an extra 1/2 of my xanax!! IT WORKED!!
Today the hurricane was upon us for about 5 or 6 hours
strong winds about 80 mph and 8 inches of rain- the back yard
was flooded and the front was also- the water was coming in
under the front door--- from the rain not a flood!!
I prayed and prayed and I was not scared at this point-
I just watched from the back porch the birds and the trees
blowing I felt OK about it!! YAY! a lot of my friends called
to see what was going on---- this was helpful!!
Our house did not flood the rain stopped just before it did!
I was so happy it was over I celebrated by dancing through the
house!!
My question is pretty simple---
if you knew someone was this frightened of a storm like this
would you try to understand and leave with them? if you had
the money to leave and it would not burden you?
even if you felt it was silly--- or would you tell this person
they are being a baby! deny this persons fears!! I am really
upset with my family for not understanding at all---
I take the time to wipe their tears and fears yet they do not
try and help me!! This is my family---- what is wrong here??
I give my ALL for them FOR WHAT????
thanks for "listening!" Judy
I am grateful that it was not worse- very grateful!!
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Registered: 03-11-2004
In reply to: eikooc742
Tue, 10-25-2005 - 1:12am
I would leave that family of mine in a minute, if they were like that. How many ppl were killed when Mt. St. Helens erupted because they simply refused to believe what was predicted? How many didn't heed Katrina's warnings? It's always better to be safe than sorry. If you have the money & it's no big deal, why not drive further North & get a motel room? I'm not generally too adventurous, but I would rather be phoning room service than watching water coming
 

 


 



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Registered: 07-21-2004
In reply to: eikooc742
Tue, 10-25-2005 - 1:55am

Oh Judy, I am so sorry your family behaved that way. I totally agree with Jan's comments.
Isn't it funny how us women, always care so much when our dh's and families are ill, stay awake all night to take care of them and watch over them, and always put ourselves and our wellness last? It is horrible that it has to be that way.
If someone I loved was scared, I would totally understand, and do everything in my power to make them feel safe.
We had a situation last week here in Oregon, where the emergency system erroneously put a a 'tsunami warning alert' on Tv and the radio...They were like 'oops, sorry!'
Thank goodness I wasn't awake, because I would have freaked, and made my dh come home from work! But for 4 hours people in my county and 2 others were very worried. The authorities finally came back on TV and radio and said that a 'mistake had been made'!!!
On the news that night some of the ppl that lived right on coast were like 'Oh, we didn't take the warning seriously, we just went about business as usual'
OMG! What is wrong with ppl!
If it was me, I would be hauling 'you know what'up the mountain to 'higher ground'!
Like Jan said, better to be safe!

I totally agree and understand your feelings, Judy.
We love ya, and are always here for you.
I am SO happy you are safe. Please keep us posted on how you are doing and feeling.
love, shasta

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Registered: 05-20-2004
In reply to: eikooc742
Tue, 10-25-2005 - 2:02pm

I am sorry that your family doesn't understand. I think it is hard for people who have never experienced anxiety and/or panic (not excusing them though). My husband's parents are in Boynton Beach and nobody heard from them until this afternoon. Luckily, they are alright. I was searching all over the internet just to see if there was any news on how hard hit their area was, while their children were sitting around like "oh, they'll call when they can". If it was my mom I probably would've been on my way down there. Anyway, I know how you feel. My husband and I just moved and thought that our other house would sell quickly, well, it hasn't. This is starting to put a financial strain on us and I have been extra stressed/anxious over the whole thing. Now that things are looking up, we have 3 prospective buyers, I told my husband "I'm glad this will be over soon, I will feel so relieved." His response "you'll just find something else to worry about." Ughh. I wish people (especially family) would at least try to understand and be supportive when we are trying to be positive.

Sorry for the long "me" story, just wanted to say that I completely can relate.

Hugs.

Alison

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Registered: 04-07-2003
In reply to: eikooc742
Tue, 10-25-2005 - 8:17pm
Shasta, Jan and Alison, Thanks so much for your
responses! I know from experience they don't get it!!
I just need to remember this and take care of ME!!
Sometimes I want someone else to---- oh well
back to sunshine and better days!! I am so relieved
it is over!! and no one was hurt or flooded or blown away!
Must be nice to live without fear and anxiety!!
Thanks so much!! Judy
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Registered: 01-17-2001
In reply to: eikooc742
Tue, 10-25-2005 - 8:27pm

Judy,


Of course you know that i am so happy that everything turned out and that your ok.


Dh seems to do the same thing sometimes, its almost as though he thinks that because I have a good weeks that I am suddenly "healed" or something. My Mom is the one who is always there to support me.


I see why you'd be mad, Geeze when you emailed me about the tornado I was scared for you!


I am sending you BIG HUGS!!!!!!!! We will all get through this... we always do ;)

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