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| Fri, 11-04-2005 - 6:18pm |
Hi there, I really appreciate you reading this!
I am sitting here, worrying because my friend has not returned my call in 5 days. MY WORST NIGHTMARE!!! EVER
We take a class with our boys together on Mondays, and that is the last time I spoke with her. I left her a message on Tuesday or Wednesday. I was so off with the days, with Halloween and with my son not having school on Wednesday, that I left her a crazy message. It was comical. I said that I think I saw her on Friday (when it was just monday) and that it seems like forever that I had seen her. I asked her how her weekend was and everything! I am such a dufus. We had already discussed the weekend at our class on Monday! Needless to say, I felt like such an idiot, and I called her to confess how dumb I am. I thought it was pretty funny. My mind has been a thousand places lately, and I have had so much going on. SHe is the type of person who would be annoyed by my flightiness.
I don't want to be paranoid, but I feel like I am waiting for the other shoe to drop, and I am going crazy that she hasn't called me back. Now I am so nervous to go to class on Monday, and i am so nervous to see her. I am almost thinking I should skip the class! I wish I could be strong and just think "Gee, maybe she is really busy, or maybe she has three boys, and has a lot going on. She'll call me back when she gets a minute." But I can't . I can't stop obsessing and ruminating about it. It's painful.
Thank you for reading. I'm going crazy over here!
xxoo jd

Hello JD,
I definately think you should go to your Monday class. My guess is that your friend is overwhelmed with her own life with 3 boys, I have 3 girls and we are always busy. I often take a break from my friends to settle myself down when I get too overwhelmed. Letting the machine get my calls is a huge help, I return the urgent calls but normally let the not so urgent ones wait. My friends are understanding because they have kids too. When we catch up in a couple days we both laugh at how crazy things are but are relieved to have eachother to talk to.
Hope you attend your class and have a good time with the boys. Keeping your routines is helpful in decreasing anxiety and stress.
Lisa
Jolie,
It is natural to assume the worst for us anxious people,
I am not mad at all. I don't agree that they are picking up on my anxiety, though. I have been friends with this girl for almost twenty years and she does this a lot. I do worry, however, that my "newer" friends might pick up on it. My friend knows that my worst fear is her ignoring me. My own mother would ignore me for weeks if she was mad at me.
As for the class, I am taking it to be with my son, ofcourse. However, I am also taking it with my friend because I do not get to see her often, and it was a good way for us to connect.
Thank you for your response. You sound like someone who has it all together. How do you stay so strong. I try to do the things you say, however, the anxiety takes over. It is sometimes so overwhelming. It is very hard for me because I feel like I don't have a solid ground at home, so I do rely on my friendships a lot. I understand everyone is busy, because I am too. It's just nice to know people are thinking about me. Sometimes it feels like I am all alone.
Thanks again for your soothing and kind response.
JD
oh well...
If she does this a lot then it's not a question of you being anxious its